I defintley have some words of advice for you and a few more :)
First i admire you for not giving up and keeping your head held high threw this , i can only imagine how hard having to go threw this 3 times would be.
But i think that you need to relax maybe go away for a day go get a massage do some thing fun that gets your mind off from it for a while then when you get back you will feel refreshed and ready.I know its hard to be stress free in all of this but think of it like this 0 stress may lead to 1 baby that you desire, My heart thought and prayers are with you I hope that it works for you this time, You will be a great mommy look how dedicated that you are in this. You will be fine and you will be pregnant soon.Am going to start my third cycle of ivf next week?Any words of advice would be appreciated.Last two were BFNs?
Hi Sleephead,
First off, best of luck with this round, I really hope you see a BFP this time!
I am not sure what you have done to date to support your cycles and whether your doctor/s have offered any 'alternative' advice but I'll assume they haven't and tell you a little about what I have found out in some interesting studies.
There have been studies conducted on women who have been undergoing IVF treatment. The one trial in particular that comes to mind involved the use of acupuncture to support the IVF cycle. There was indeed a higher success rate in those women using acupuncture over those that weren't.
I can recall also the study siting that the western doctors could see the improvement but could not understand why or how it worked. Ask a Chinese Medicine doctor and they will be able to explain it to you quite easily...just keep an open mind.
You would no doubt find that many Western doctors will not agree that undergoing acupuncture will make any difference but there are studies that point to it actually doing something. It can't hurt so it would perhaps be worth a try. Just ensure that you see someone who is very experienced and has some success stories to share with you.
I hope this has helped and that you have all the success you dream of.
Michelle.
http://www.aboutgettingpregnant.com/blogAm going to start my third cycle of ivf next week?Any words of advice would be appreciated.Last two were BFNs?
Hello, I have heard that by the time you get to your 3rd IVF cycle there's a higher chance of it succeeding than not succeeding. Not entirely sure why..but that has to be a positive thought. I have also been told that a course of acupuncture before, during and after the treatment can be very effective. I sincerely wish you all the very best and really hope that everything works out for you...DON'T GIVE UP x
Getting ready to start my second in a couple of months. Think positive and try to enjoy yourself. I feel if it's going to happen, it's going to happen. I WANT it to happen but stressing won't help me or help it happen. Try to get a good support network around you. Speak to friends and family, try to go out and enjoy yourself so you're not just focussing on the IVF. Talk to the Drs, is there anything they can tell you as to why it perhaps didn't work before? Could you change your diet, exercise or stress levels? Best of luck.
I'll keep all things crossed for you if you do for me! I am going to start my fourth cycle next month.
The best advice I can give you is to keep your brain busy and do things to take your mind off the process! I had my best cycle when I didn't think about every little thing I put into my body, took opportunities to focus on myself, did my best to feel happy and positive. The best thing you can do is put your feet up! Whatever helps you to de-stress, rest, and stay calm will help. Your body will be working very hard and you want to give it as much rest as possible. Try meditation, self-hypnosis, and/or deep breathing exercises. If you have an MP3 player, download (or buy) some things at Anji.com! There is one there specifically for IVF gals. I have that one and a few other that I really like. Here is one http://store.anjionline.com/-strse-2/%3C… Get your DH to rub your feet, massage your neck, and soak your feet in warm water. Keeping warm is important, not hot, just comfortably warm, especially after your embryo transfer (ET). I also find that yoga helps to calm me and it is great for circulation. It is important to get your blood flowing into your reproductive organs to help those follicles grow and to build your lining. You can look up “fertility yoga” for some good poses. I have also started acupuncture and really enjoy it! Lots of studies seem to show that having acupuncture close to the time of your ET helps with implantation. You can also start it now to help increase blood flow and then feel more comfortable with it when you have your ET.
Sending positive thoughts that your embie(s) will soon snuggle in! Sticky sticky vibes!
First of all i want to say good luck and i dont no what your religion is but if you believe in GOD everything goings to be ok! Just pray, have faith, meditate in GODS word because he says ASK ANYTHING IN MY NAME AND I WILL DO IT john 14:14 read and see how good GOD works!! GOOD LUCK!! @ GOD BLESS U SWEETIE!!
I will keep my fingers crossed for you! Everyone says to remain positive, and I know how hard that is....but honestly just remain as positive as you can. Visualisation helps too! Visualise yourself with your baby, visualise your pregnancy test saying positive!!! I know it might sounds nuts to some people, but it honestly works!
Tons %26amp; tons of baby dust to you hunny! keep us informed! xxxx
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
Mine would be that they can go round obstacles as well as straight through them.
Also whats your sun, moon rising sign. I'm Virgo with Aquarius Rising
If you can think of good advice for any other signs as well that would be cool.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
If you have children, don't think of them as your possessions. They don't exist to serve your needs. Don't be possessive of your children or your partners.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
I have no advice as I'm just learning about this.... I'm a Sagittarius born Dec 17th ....my boyfriend is a Taurus born April 23rd and the advice given here is exactly things he needs to work on! I
Mine would be ';Being too possessive over someone is never a good thing.'; I'm Capricorn with Cancer Moon and Pisces Rising
EDIT: Whoever gave me a thumbs down obviously has no sense of humor.
my advice to Pisces,learn to control your emotions more,not everything i worth crying for.
My advice would be that it's not all me, me. (My brother is a Taurus)
Pisces Sun, Sagittarus Moon and Leo Rising.
Also whats your sun, moon rising sign. I'm Virgo with Aquarius Rising
If you can think of good advice for any other signs as well that would be cool.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
If you have children, don't think of them as your possessions. They don't exist to serve your needs. Don't be possessive of your children or your partners.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
I have no advice as I'm just learning about this.... I'm a Sagittarius born Dec 17th ....my boyfriend is a Taurus born April 23rd and the advice given here is exactly things he needs to work on! I
Mine would be ';Being too possessive over someone is never a good thing.'; I'm Capricorn with Cancer Moon and Pisces Rising
EDIT: Whoever gave me a thumbs down obviously has no sense of humor.
my advice to Pisces,learn to control your emotions more,not everything i worth crying for.
My advice would be that it's not all me, me. (My brother is a Taurus)
Pisces Sun, Sagittarus Moon and Leo Rising.
My new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
I had no idea this was the case cause otherwise I wouldnt have bothered we been together a couple weeks i was completely honest with her and answered all the questions she asked can this survive ?My new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
thats a hard situation....its gonna be a problem. Everytime you and your gf fight her best friends gonna talk bad about you.... and shes gonna keep saying negative things about you, you dated her sister of course she isMy new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
If you really like the girl that you're dating, and you're honest then there won't be any problems.
Depends how well your girlfriend knows your ex and whether or not your ex's sister is in the picture a lot or not.
it can if you have no more feelings for your ex, she'll be suspicious about you if you ever wunna be with your ex alone, but she'll probably understand. a line that might work is 'I was searching for my soulmate and it wasn't her, it was you' (don't use that, it's corny)
Not confusing at all..
Seriously? Dude, Cmon. It was 7 years ago, who ***** cares. If she brakes up with you cus of this than shes an idiot to begin with. Dont worry about minor details
thats a hard situation....its gonna be a problem. Everytime you and your gf fight her best friends gonna talk bad about you.... and shes gonna keep saying negative things about you, you dated her sister of course she isMy new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
If you really like the girl that you're dating, and you're honest then there won't be any problems.
Depends how well your girlfriend knows your ex and whether or not your ex's sister is in the picture a lot or not.
it can if you have no more feelings for your ex, she'll be suspicious about you if you ever wunna be with your ex alone, but she'll probably understand. a line that might work is 'I was searching for my soulmate and it wasn't her, it was you' (don't use that, it's corny)
Not confusing at all..
Seriously? Dude, Cmon. It was 7 years ago, who ***** cares. If she brakes up with you cus of this than shes an idiot to begin with. Dont worry about minor details
I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
I'm prepping to buy my first home but have not found a mortgage agent yet. Is there any advice on government programs for first time buyers? I'm looking for the best advice to save money on a mortgage. Does anyone have any advice on how to buy smart when dealing with real estate agents? Any tricks on how to deal with them. I really want to avoid getting taken of advantage of. Your advice is really appreciated! Thanks!I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
A great place to start is www.hud.gov. This is the official website for the US Department of Housing and Urban Development. They offer a good walk-through of how to go about buying a home. There are also links available to programs for first-time homebuyers, which may offer assistance in lower rates, down payment assistance, or even both.
You also mentioned some worries about being taken by a real estate agent. What you might want to consider is using what is called a buyer's agent. Basically, it puts a real estate agent in your corner too. They will end up splitting the commission with the seller's agent, so they do have some incentive to get you into a home that fits what you want and need.
In the meantime, make sure you are a great candidate for getting approval. A good place to start here is annualcreditreport.com, the official government website to receive a free credit history from all three major bureaus. You'll want to check for public records, ie judgments, bankruptcies, and collections. If there are any, you'll want to get those resolved, or be sure you have the documents you need to show they are taken care of. Beyond that, if you have balances on your credit cards, keep working at whittling those away. Be aware of what ';assets'; you have, things like checking or savings accounts, 401K, IRA, anything you can use to show you have the money to move ahead with this pruchase. Having all this information easily available to you will make the process go much more smoothly.I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
Real Estate Agent?
Ouch...
If you're looking to buy a home you need to buy them wholesale and you can't get those from realtors. You need an education on buying properties visit www.platinumreic.com fill out the form and they'll get back with you. Also first time buyer you need a HUD loan as they give you tons of protection conventional loans don't. They can see if you qualify for that as well.
Real Estate Zen
i think the best thing for you to do is refer to your bank.their you can rely sto them such transactions.Bankers can also also advise wha to do so...also try to read first, the book; David Bach's Smart Women Finish Rich or Robert Kiyosaki's Retire Young, Retire Rich...much better you can read this either of this book before your final decision. They are alslo very good financial educators...i think you're familiar to them...
You might want to use a lawyer. Depending on your state, that may actually be required if you don't pay cash, or it may save you money over using a standard title company. One thing is for certain, there's nobody else that is 100 percent on your side when buying a home.
The real estate agent works off of commission. The seller pays that, but that means that the more you pay, the more they get. I'm not saying they are all crooks, I'm saying that you need to consider that when weighing their advice. You want to talk to them a while before shopping houses, you're better off with one you feel comfortable driving around to strange places with, and who knows your tastes and budget and home needs.
The mortgage broker works for a lending company, and is selling a product. There are some really good people out there doing it, but there are some that think it's just easy money. You want to shop around for one you can trust, and I suggest talking to at least three. It'll take that much just to get used to the terminology. Don't waste more than ten minutes with one if they aren't asking you questions; there are more different programs than you can imagine, and to find out which one suits you, they need to be asking a lot of questions.
In case you don't get an attorney, here's two key points to make sure are in the offer you submit. 1) it has to be contingent on a home inspection. It's one thing if they won't FIX any problems, but there are some problems you don't want to buy, or at least not be surprised by after closing 2) contingent on you getting financing; deals fall through at the last minute because of financing, you want to be able to get your money back.
Here's one more thing to bear in mind that your realtor doesn't want you to know, so don't tell them you do know it:
If they accept your first offer, you offered too much.
Check out first time homebuyer programs in you state.
Arizona just got 400 million dollars to offer first time homebuyer's in this state.
5% GRANT never has to be paid back.
Can be used for down payment, pre-paids, closing costs.
Here is the info for Arizona.
http://www.welcome2arizona.com/home/firs鈥?/a>
Terry S.
http://www.Welcome2Arizona.com
fha requires 2.25% down payment.
most 1st time home owners use this program....rates are pretty good for hardly putting any money down.
mycommunity /homepossible is zero down with a slightly higher rate of around 7% for 30yr fixed
these 3 are all first time home buyer programs
I found this web site with VERY interesting advice and proposals. Good luck! http://real-estate-note-buyers.blogspot.鈥?/a>eye makeup tips pores
A great place to start is www.hud.gov. This is the official website for the US Department of Housing and Urban Development. They offer a good walk-through of how to go about buying a home. There are also links available to programs for first-time homebuyers, which may offer assistance in lower rates, down payment assistance, or even both.
You also mentioned some worries about being taken by a real estate agent. What you might want to consider is using what is called a buyer's agent. Basically, it puts a real estate agent in your corner too. They will end up splitting the commission with the seller's agent, so they do have some incentive to get you into a home that fits what you want and need.
In the meantime, make sure you are a great candidate for getting approval. A good place to start here is annualcreditreport.com, the official government website to receive a free credit history from all three major bureaus. You'll want to check for public records, ie judgments, bankruptcies, and collections. If there are any, you'll want to get those resolved, or be sure you have the documents you need to show they are taken care of. Beyond that, if you have balances on your credit cards, keep working at whittling those away. Be aware of what ';assets'; you have, things like checking or savings accounts, 401K, IRA, anything you can use to show you have the money to move ahead with this pruchase. Having all this information easily available to you will make the process go much more smoothly.I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
Real Estate Agent?
Ouch...
If you're looking to buy a home you need to buy them wholesale and you can't get those from realtors. You need an education on buying properties visit www.platinumreic.com fill out the form and they'll get back with you. Also first time buyer you need a HUD loan as they give you tons of protection conventional loans don't. They can see if you qualify for that as well.
Real Estate Zen
i think the best thing for you to do is refer to your bank.their you can rely sto them such transactions.Bankers can also also advise wha to do so...also try to read first, the book; David Bach's Smart Women Finish Rich or Robert Kiyosaki's Retire Young, Retire Rich...much better you can read this either of this book before your final decision. They are alslo very good financial educators...i think you're familiar to them...
You might want to use a lawyer. Depending on your state, that may actually be required if you don't pay cash, or it may save you money over using a standard title company. One thing is for certain, there's nobody else that is 100 percent on your side when buying a home.
The real estate agent works off of commission. The seller pays that, but that means that the more you pay, the more they get. I'm not saying they are all crooks, I'm saying that you need to consider that when weighing their advice. You want to talk to them a while before shopping houses, you're better off with one you feel comfortable driving around to strange places with, and who knows your tastes and budget and home needs.
The mortgage broker works for a lending company, and is selling a product. There are some really good people out there doing it, but there are some that think it's just easy money. You want to shop around for one you can trust, and I suggest talking to at least three. It'll take that much just to get used to the terminology. Don't waste more than ten minutes with one if they aren't asking you questions; there are more different programs than you can imagine, and to find out which one suits you, they need to be asking a lot of questions.
In case you don't get an attorney, here's two key points to make sure are in the offer you submit. 1) it has to be contingent on a home inspection. It's one thing if they won't FIX any problems, but there are some problems you don't want to buy, or at least not be surprised by after closing 2) contingent on you getting financing; deals fall through at the last minute because of financing, you want to be able to get your money back.
Here's one more thing to bear in mind that your realtor doesn't want you to know, so don't tell them you do know it:
If they accept your first offer, you offered too much.
Check out first time homebuyer programs in you state.
Arizona just got 400 million dollars to offer first time homebuyer's in this state.
5% GRANT never has to be paid back.
Can be used for down payment, pre-paids, closing costs.
Here is the info for Arizona.
http://www.welcome2arizona.com/home/firs鈥?/a>
Terry S.
http://www.Welcome2Arizona.com
fha requires 2.25% down payment.
most 1st time home owners use this program....rates are pretty good for hardly putting any money down.
mycommunity /homepossible is zero down with a slightly higher rate of around 7% for 30yr fixed
these 3 are all first time home buyer programs
I found this web site with VERY interesting advice and proposals. Good luck! http://real-estate-note-buyers.blogspot.鈥?/a>
What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
Don't let anyone tell you what to believe and who to worship or how to worship. Follow your heart and your mind to your own personal brand of happiness and love.What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
life is not that complicated. we eat, and we f u c k to make more of your kind so they can repeat this process. there is no grand scheme where we march to glory. the only point to life is to survive, procreate, and then eventually die, that's it. there is no such thing gods just like there is no such thing as ghost's, goblins, witches, angels, karma, reincarnation, or astrology. So grow up, there is no great meaning to life, just live it to your liking.What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
Don't take anybody's word for nothing, demand PROOF, do your own investigation, Because:
2Jo 1:7 -
For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Messiah is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
1Th 5:21 -
Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
Juce
Never stop pursuing it. Don't worry about the people who think less of you because you step into their little spiritual deal for a while, look around, learn a few things, and then move on. The worst thing you can ever do is to stop growing spiritually.
Read. Read everything. Keep an open mind. Remember that no one knows the absolute truth in this regard, and anyone who tells you they KNOW is full of it. Don't buy into extremism or any dogma based in intolerance. Be nice to people.
Investigate the religion you were raised in. Learn why you believe what you do.
Then learn about other religions, not to make fun of them, but to learn what you can from them, and understand their culture and point of view.
HOO BOY Follow Jesus was the best answer there in my opinion
I was going to say though
to todays crowd and mob
You know and now everybody else knows what you think is right and wrong, but, there really is a right and wrong
Don't let hypocrisy or misconduct of believers or unjust acts committed by believers in the name of God to deter you from an eternity in Heaven
Forget about religions. Learn about a possible relationship between you and God. Attainable thru Jesus.
Do some soul searching. What is right for you may not be right for anyone else. Think and decide for yourself. Don't let other people influence you.
The power,because we can control the power that we give to them.(only if u Can control it)
Dogma is the Anti-Spirit.
Follow Jesus
let your soul be your pilot
free yourself from the chains of religion
life is not that complicated. we eat, and we f u c k to make more of your kind so they can repeat this process. there is no grand scheme where we march to glory. the only point to life is to survive, procreate, and then eventually die, that's it. there is no such thing gods just like there is no such thing as ghost's, goblins, witches, angels, karma, reincarnation, or astrology. So grow up, there is no great meaning to life, just live it to your liking.What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
Don't take anybody's word for nothing, demand PROOF, do your own investigation, Because:
2Jo 1:7 -
For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Messiah is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
1Th 5:21 -
Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
Juce
Never stop pursuing it. Don't worry about the people who think less of you because you step into their little spiritual deal for a while, look around, learn a few things, and then move on. The worst thing you can ever do is to stop growing spiritually.
Read. Read everything. Keep an open mind. Remember that no one knows the absolute truth in this regard, and anyone who tells you they KNOW is full of it. Don't buy into extremism or any dogma based in intolerance. Be nice to people.
Investigate the religion you were raised in. Learn why you believe what you do.
Then learn about other religions, not to make fun of them, but to learn what you can from them, and understand their culture and point of view.
HOO BOY Follow Jesus was the best answer there in my opinion
I was going to say though
to todays crowd and mob
You know and now everybody else knows what you think is right and wrong, but, there really is a right and wrong
Don't let hypocrisy or misconduct of believers or unjust acts committed by believers in the name of God to deter you from an eternity in Heaven
Forget about religions. Learn about a possible relationship between you and God. Attainable thru Jesus.
Do some soul searching. What is right for you may not be right for anyone else. Think and decide for yourself. Don't let other people influence you.
The power,because we can control the power that we give to them.(only if u Can control it)
Dogma is the Anti-Spirit.
Follow Jesus
let your soul be your pilot
free yourself from the chains of religion
What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
Mine would be that they can go round obstacles as well as straight through them.
Also whats your sun, moon rising sign. I'm Virgo with Aquarius Rising
If you can think of good advice for any other signs as well that would be cool.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
If you have children, don't think of them as your possessions. They don't exist to serve your needs. Don't be possessive of your children or your partners.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
I have no advice as I'm just learning about this.... I'm a Sagittarius born Dec 17th ....my boyfriend is a Taurus born April 23rd and the advice given here is exactly things he needs to work on! I
Mine would be ';Being too possessive over someone is never a good thing.'; I'm Capricorn with Cancer Moon and Pisces Rising
EDIT: Whoever gave me a thumbs down obviously has no sense of humor.
my advice to Pisces,learn to control your emotions more,not everything i worth crying for.
My advice would be that it's not all me, me. (My brother is a Taurus)
Pisces Sun, Sagittarus Moon and Leo Rising.
Also whats your sun, moon rising sign. I'm Virgo with Aquarius Rising
If you can think of good advice for any other signs as well that would be cool.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
If you have children, don't think of them as your possessions. They don't exist to serve your needs. Don't be possessive of your children or your partners.What would be the best advice you'd give to a Taurus?
I have no advice as I'm just learning about this.... I'm a Sagittarius born Dec 17th ....my boyfriend is a Taurus born April 23rd and the advice given here is exactly things he needs to work on! I
Mine would be ';Being too possessive over someone is never a good thing.'; I'm Capricorn with Cancer Moon and Pisces Rising
EDIT: Whoever gave me a thumbs down obviously has no sense of humor.
my advice to Pisces,learn to control your emotions more,not everything i worth crying for.
My advice would be that it's not all me, me. (My brother is a Taurus)
Pisces Sun, Sagittarus Moon and Leo Rising.
My new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
I had no idea this was the case cause otherwise I wouldnt have bothered we been together a couple weeks i was completely honest with her and answered all the questions she asked can this survive ?My new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
Depends how well your girlfriend knows your ex and whether or not your ex's sister is in the picture a lot or not.My new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
If you really like the girl that you're dating, and you're honest then there won't be any problems.
Not confusing at all..
thats a hard situation....its gonna be a problem. Everytime you and your gf fight her best friends gonna talk bad about you.... and shes gonna keep saying negative things about you, you dated her sister of course she is
Seriously? Dude, Cmon. It was 7 years ago, who ***** cares. If she brakes up with you cus of this than shes an idiot to begin with. Dont worry about minor details
it can if you have no more feelings for your ex, she'll be suspicious about you if you ever wunna be with your ex alone, but she'll probably understand. a line that might work is 'I was searching for my soulmate and it wasn't her, it was you' (don't use that, it's corny)
Depends how well your girlfriend knows your ex and whether or not your ex's sister is in the picture a lot or not.My new girlfriend's best friend just happens to be my ex's sister who i was in a 7 yr realtionship advice help?
If you really like the girl that you're dating, and you're honest then there won't be any problems.
Not confusing at all..
thats a hard situation....its gonna be a problem. Everytime you and your gf fight her best friends gonna talk bad about you.... and shes gonna keep saying negative things about you, you dated her sister of course she is
Seriously? Dude, Cmon. It was 7 years ago, who ***** cares. If she brakes up with you cus of this than shes an idiot to begin with. Dont worry about minor details
it can if you have no more feelings for your ex, she'll be suspicious about you if you ever wunna be with your ex alone, but she'll probably understand. a line that might work is 'I was searching for my soulmate and it wasn't her, it was you' (don't use that, it's corny)
I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
I'm prepping to buy my first home but have not found a mortgage agent yet. Is there any advice on government programs for first time buyers? I'm looking for the best advice to save money on a mortgage. Does anyone have any advice on how to buy smart when dealing with real estate agents? Any tricks on how to deal with them. I really want to avoid getting taken of advantage of. Your advice is really appreciated! Thanks!I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
A great place to start is www.hud.gov. This is the official website for the US Department of Housing and Urban Development. They offer a good walk-through of how to go about buying a home. There are also links available to programs for first-time homebuyers, which may offer assistance in lower rates, down payment assistance, or even both.
You also mentioned some worries about being taken by a real estate agent. What you might want to consider is using what is called a buyer's agent. Basically, it puts a real estate agent in your corner too. They will end up splitting the commission with the seller's agent, so they do have some incentive to get you into a home that fits what you want and need.
In the meantime, make sure you are a great candidate for getting approval. A good place to start here is annualcreditreport.com, the official government website to receive a free credit history from all three major bureaus. You'll want to check for public records, ie judgments, bankruptcies, and collections. If there are any, you'll want to get those resolved, or be sure you have the documents you need to show they are taken care of. Beyond that, if you have balances on your credit cards, keep working at whittling those away. Be aware of what ';assets'; you have, things like checking or savings accounts, 401K, IRA, anything you can use to show you have the money to move ahead with this pruchase. Having all this information easily available to you will make the process go much more smoothly.I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
Real Estate Agent?
Ouch...
If you're looking to buy a home you need to buy them wholesale and you can't get those from realtors. You need an education on buying properties visit www.platinumreic.com fill out the form and they'll get back with you. Also first time buyer you need a HUD loan as they give you tons of protection conventional loans don't. They can see if you qualify for that as well.
Real Estate Zen
i think the best thing for you to do is refer to your bank.their you can rely sto them such transactions.Bankers can also also advise wha to do so...also try to read first, the book; David Bach's Smart Women Finish Rich or Robert Kiyosaki's Retire Young, Retire Rich...much better you can read this either of this book before your final decision. They are alslo very good financial educators...i think you're familiar to them...
You might want to use a lawyer. Depending on your state, that may actually be required if you don't pay cash, or it may save you money over using a standard title company. One thing is for certain, there's nobody else that is 100 percent on your side when buying a home.
The real estate agent works off of commission. The seller pays that, but that means that the more you pay, the more they get. I'm not saying they are all crooks, I'm saying that you need to consider that when weighing their advice. You want to talk to them a while before shopping houses, you're better off with one you feel comfortable driving around to strange places with, and who knows your tastes and budget and home needs.
The mortgage broker works for a lending company, and is selling a product. There are some really good people out there doing it, but there are some that think it's just easy money. You want to shop around for one you can trust, and I suggest talking to at least three. It'll take that much just to get used to the terminology. Don't waste more than ten minutes with one if they aren't asking you questions; there are more different programs than you can imagine, and to find out which one suits you, they need to be asking a lot of questions.
In case you don't get an attorney, here's two key points to make sure are in the offer you submit. 1) it has to be contingent on a home inspection. It's one thing if they won't FIX any problems, but there are some problems you don't want to buy, or at least not be surprised by after closing 2) contingent on you getting financing; deals fall through at the last minute because of financing, you want to be able to get your money back.
Here's one more thing to bear in mind that your realtor doesn't want you to know, so don't tell them you do know it:
If they accept your first offer, you offered too much.
Check out first time homebuyer programs in you state.
Arizona just got 400 million dollars to offer first time homebuyer's in this state.
5% GRANT never has to be paid back.
Can be used for down payment, pre-paids, closing costs.
Here is the info for Arizona.
http://www.welcome2arizona.com/home/firs鈥?/a>
Terry S.
http://www.Welcome2Arizona.com
fha requires 2.25% down payment.
most 1st time home owners use this program....rates are pretty good for hardly putting any money down.
mycommunity /homepossible is zero down with a slightly higher rate of around 7% for 30yr fixed
these 3 are all first time home buyer programs
I found this web site with VERY interesting advice and proposals. Good luck! http://real-estate-note-buyers.blogspot.鈥?/a>
A great place to start is www.hud.gov. This is the official website for the US Department of Housing and Urban Development. They offer a good walk-through of how to go about buying a home. There are also links available to programs for first-time homebuyers, which may offer assistance in lower rates, down payment assistance, or even both.
You also mentioned some worries about being taken by a real estate agent. What you might want to consider is using what is called a buyer's agent. Basically, it puts a real estate agent in your corner too. They will end up splitting the commission with the seller's agent, so they do have some incentive to get you into a home that fits what you want and need.
In the meantime, make sure you are a great candidate for getting approval. A good place to start here is annualcreditreport.com, the official government website to receive a free credit history from all three major bureaus. You'll want to check for public records, ie judgments, bankruptcies, and collections. If there are any, you'll want to get those resolved, or be sure you have the documents you need to show they are taken care of. Beyond that, if you have balances on your credit cards, keep working at whittling those away. Be aware of what ';assets'; you have, things like checking or savings accounts, 401K, IRA, anything you can use to show you have the money to move ahead with this pruchase. Having all this information easily available to you will make the process go much more smoothly.I'll be a first time home buyer. Are there any programs that will help me save money on a mortgage? Advice?
Real Estate Agent?
Ouch...
If you're looking to buy a home you need to buy them wholesale and you can't get those from realtors. You need an education on buying properties visit www.platinumreic.com fill out the form and they'll get back with you. Also first time buyer you need a HUD loan as they give you tons of protection conventional loans don't. They can see if you qualify for that as well.
Real Estate Zen
i think the best thing for you to do is refer to your bank.their you can rely sto them such transactions.Bankers can also also advise wha to do so...also try to read first, the book; David Bach's Smart Women Finish Rich or Robert Kiyosaki's Retire Young, Retire Rich...much better you can read this either of this book before your final decision. They are alslo very good financial educators...i think you're familiar to them...
You might want to use a lawyer. Depending on your state, that may actually be required if you don't pay cash, or it may save you money over using a standard title company. One thing is for certain, there's nobody else that is 100 percent on your side when buying a home.
The real estate agent works off of commission. The seller pays that, but that means that the more you pay, the more they get. I'm not saying they are all crooks, I'm saying that you need to consider that when weighing their advice. You want to talk to them a while before shopping houses, you're better off with one you feel comfortable driving around to strange places with, and who knows your tastes and budget and home needs.
The mortgage broker works for a lending company, and is selling a product. There are some really good people out there doing it, but there are some that think it's just easy money. You want to shop around for one you can trust, and I suggest talking to at least three. It'll take that much just to get used to the terminology. Don't waste more than ten minutes with one if they aren't asking you questions; there are more different programs than you can imagine, and to find out which one suits you, they need to be asking a lot of questions.
In case you don't get an attorney, here's two key points to make sure are in the offer you submit. 1) it has to be contingent on a home inspection. It's one thing if they won't FIX any problems, but there are some problems you don't want to buy, or at least not be surprised by after closing 2) contingent on you getting financing; deals fall through at the last minute because of financing, you want to be able to get your money back.
Here's one more thing to bear in mind that your realtor doesn't want you to know, so don't tell them you do know it:
If they accept your first offer, you offered too much.
Check out first time homebuyer programs in you state.
Arizona just got 400 million dollars to offer first time homebuyer's in this state.
5% GRANT never has to be paid back.
Can be used for down payment, pre-paids, closing costs.
Here is the info for Arizona.
http://www.welcome2arizona.com/home/firs鈥?/a>
Terry S.
http://www.Welcome2Arizona.com
fha requires 2.25% down payment.
most 1st time home owners use this program....rates are pretty good for hardly putting any money down.
mycommunity /homepossible is zero down with a slightly higher rate of around 7% for 30yr fixed
these 3 are all first time home buyer programs
I found this web site with VERY interesting advice and proposals. Good luck! http://real-estate-note-buyers.blogspot.鈥?/a>
What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
Don't let anyone tell you what to believe and who to worship or how to worship. Follow your heart and your mind to your own personal brand of happiness and love.What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
life is not that complicated. we eat, and we f u c k to make more of your kind so they can repeat this process. there is no grand scheme where we march to glory. the only point to life is to survive, procreate, and then eventually die, that's it. there is no such thing gods just like there is no such thing as ghost's, goblins, witches, angels, karma, reincarnation, or astrology. So grow up, there is no great meaning to life, just live it to your liking.What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
Don't take anybody's word for nothing, demand PROOF, do your own investigation, Because:
2Jo 1:7 -
For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Messiah is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
1Th 5:21 -
Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
Juce
Never stop pursuing it. Don't worry about the people who think less of you because you step into their little spiritual deal for a while, look around, learn a few things, and then move on. The worst thing you can ever do is to stop growing spiritually.
Read. Read everything. Keep an open mind. Remember that no one knows the absolute truth in this regard, and anyone who tells you they KNOW is full of it. Don't buy into extremism or any dogma based in intolerance. Be nice to people.
Investigate the religion you were raised in. Learn why you believe what you do.
Then learn about other religions, not to make fun of them, but to learn what you can from them, and understand their culture and point of view.
HOO BOY Follow Jesus was the best answer there in my opinion
I was going to say though
to todays crowd and mob
You know and now everybody else knows what you think is right and wrong, but, there really is a right and wrong
Don't let hypocrisy or misconduct of believers or unjust acts committed by believers in the name of God to deter you from an eternity in Heaven
Forget about religions. Learn about a possible relationship between you and God. Attainable thru Jesus.
Do some soul searching. What is right for you may not be right for anyone else. Think and decide for yourself. Don't let other people influence you.
The power,because we can control the power that we give to them.(only if u Can control it)
Dogma is the Anti-Spirit.
Follow Jesus
let your soul be your pilot
free yourself from the chains of religion
life is not that complicated. we eat, and we f u c k to make more of your kind so they can repeat this process. there is no grand scheme where we march to glory. the only point to life is to survive, procreate, and then eventually die, that's it. there is no such thing gods just like there is no such thing as ghost's, goblins, witches, angels, karma, reincarnation, or astrology. So grow up, there is no great meaning to life, just live it to your liking.What would be your greatest advice you would give or could give to anyone concerning their Spirituality?
Don't take anybody's word for nothing, demand PROOF, do your own investigation, Because:
2Jo 1:7 -
For many deceivers are entered into the world, who confess not that Messiah is come in the flesh. This is a deceiver and an antichrist.
1Th 5:21 -
Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.
Juce
Never stop pursuing it. Don't worry about the people who think less of you because you step into their little spiritual deal for a while, look around, learn a few things, and then move on. The worst thing you can ever do is to stop growing spiritually.
Read. Read everything. Keep an open mind. Remember that no one knows the absolute truth in this regard, and anyone who tells you they KNOW is full of it. Don't buy into extremism or any dogma based in intolerance. Be nice to people.
Investigate the religion you were raised in. Learn why you believe what you do.
Then learn about other religions, not to make fun of them, but to learn what you can from them, and understand their culture and point of view.
HOO BOY Follow Jesus was the best answer there in my opinion
I was going to say though
to todays crowd and mob
You know and now everybody else knows what you think is right and wrong, but, there really is a right and wrong
Don't let hypocrisy or misconduct of believers or unjust acts committed by believers in the name of God to deter you from an eternity in Heaven
Forget about religions. Learn about a possible relationship between you and God. Attainable thru Jesus.
Do some soul searching. What is right for you may not be right for anyone else. Think and decide for yourself. Don't let other people influence you.
The power,because we can control the power that we give to them.(only if u Can control it)
Dogma is the Anti-Spirit.
Follow Jesus
let your soul be your pilot
free yourself from the chains of religion
What will be the best advice for someone about to give a sales presentation?
To enjoy it !
Secondly to think of what they want to hear that will satisfy their needs, and dont think about your own needs at allWhat will be the best advice for someone about to give a sales presentation?
Be confident, but not cocky.eye makeup tips pores
Secondly to think of what they want to hear that will satisfy their needs, and dont think about your own needs at allWhat will be the best advice for someone about to give a sales presentation?
Be confident, but not cocky.
I think that something in my multivitamin is giving me headaches. Any advice as to what it may be.?
I already suffer from frequent headaches/migraines, mostly hormonal. It seems that whenever I try taking a multivitamin regularly I start getting them more often so I end up stopping the multivitamin. If I could figure out what in the multi may be causing this I could try to find one that will work for me.I think that something in my multivitamin is giving me headaches. Any advice as to what it may be.?
I am not aware of anything that is in your multivitamin that can cause headaches. The multivitamin doesn't have anything in it that you aren't supposed to be eating anyway. Also they're not in any higher concentration than what you should normally be taking in either. If you have migraines it may just be that your migraine patter is changing independent of your multivitamin.
I suggest that if you're really worried about it, stop the multivitamin and record how often you have headaches. I hope this helps.I think that something in my multivitamin is giving me headaches. Any advice as to what it may be.?
You're quite welcome, i'm glad that I could help.
In the past few months studies have come out saying vitamin supplements are not helpful. Eating a good diet it. The vitamins in a pill are not absorbed as well as those in say, leafy green spinach. I am sure your headaches are hormonal. If you take any hormonal rx you might consider re assessing those too.
I am not aware of anything that is in your multivitamin that can cause headaches. The multivitamin doesn't have anything in it that you aren't supposed to be eating anyway. Also they're not in any higher concentration than what you should normally be taking in either. If you have migraines it may just be that your migraine patter is changing independent of your multivitamin.
I suggest that if you're really worried about it, stop the multivitamin and record how often you have headaches. I hope this helps.I think that something in my multivitamin is giving me headaches. Any advice as to what it may be.?
You're quite welcome, i'm glad that I could help.
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In the past few months studies have come out saying vitamin supplements are not helpful. Eating a good diet it. The vitamins in a pill are not absorbed as well as those in say, leafy green spinach. I am sure your headaches are hormonal. If you take any hormonal rx you might consider re assessing those too.
If you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
Just curious and in need of advice myself. For all the A's on my report cards, I feel like the biggest dolt in the world.If you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
Don't take what others say so seriously.
The things that people say tell much about them but absolutely nothing about you.
Its easy when you are young to think of yourself in a negative way because it is human nature to over think with respect to our perceived faults. I say perceived because that is often the only place that these so-called faults exist.
Remember that you are a work in progress. Everyone goes through these times of uncertainty but they in no way define us and in truth they don't describe us either.
It is difficult to be a good student because the people who don't make the effort are often jealous so they make fun and call names. Again these comments say a lot about the person making them but absolutely nothing about the person they are directed at.
Just be your self, don't let anyone try to change you so they can be more comfortable about themselves.
Treat people the way that you would like to be treated and you will do just fine. Do your best to to let hate into your life because hate feeds on the one who creates it not on the one it is directed at.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from those who love you.
Take care.
love and blessings DonIf you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
go to college, get a job, get married, have kids...........in that order
NOT.............get pregnant, get married, have kids, get a crappy job, go to college
Listen to your ma ma..... really listen to the people who love you or care about your future. There is great wisdom about what would be the better path. When we are young we feel like we knew it all and our rebellious nature made everything mom and dad said sound stupid.....I would be better off if I had listened, really listened.
Love yourself. Don't let anyone take that from you. You are the best friend you will ever have.
Love others. People aren't perfect but being angry %26amp; hateful hurts you more than them.
Love the world. It's a beautiful planet. Appreciate it. Watch the sunrise %26amp; set. Explore the awesome wonder of God's creations.
Live in the moment. It is precious. Don't take anything for granted. Make the most of each day.
It is a gift to be alive. Sometimes life can be hard. It can seem cruel. Sometimes tragedies happen %26amp; you will need to grieve. But you will be ok. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You will heal. You can survive the ugliness and find the beauty of life again.
Be happy. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
Never say never, because you just don't know what fate has in store for you. Believe in miracles, and work hard to create one.
I would give no 'advice', because if I did, something would inevitably change, and I would not be where I am today.
What do you need advice on? And why do you feel like a 'dolt'? I cannot answer a question you do not ask.
Don't smoke.
Buy real estate.
Safe sex.
no drinking until your at least 8
i would give my younger self a hug, cause i was alone.
Your own self-worth is not dependent on a man's (or anyone's) feelings for you.
my advice would be don't listen to advice from older people. Live your life, and learn from your mistakes.
Watch out for that cricket ba....ouch!
listen to the folks
My advice to me would be to suck it up and stay at home when I turned 18 and go to college. I made life so much harder on myself than it had to be by moving out and starting ';life';.
Now, with that said, I don't regreat anything in my life. Everything I've done and been through has made me who I am today. It just would have been easier the other way!
Do not lose your virginity to that weasely creep!!! He may seem nice but he's a jerk!!! LOL!
Get a job that allows you to travel the world
Don't take what others say so seriously.
The things that people say tell much about them but absolutely nothing about you.
Its easy when you are young to think of yourself in a negative way because it is human nature to over think with respect to our perceived faults. I say perceived because that is often the only place that these so-called faults exist.
Remember that you are a work in progress. Everyone goes through these times of uncertainty but they in no way define us and in truth they don't describe us either.
It is difficult to be a good student because the people who don't make the effort are often jealous so they make fun and call names. Again these comments say a lot about the person making them but absolutely nothing about the person they are directed at.
Just be your self, don't let anyone try to change you so they can be more comfortable about themselves.
Treat people the way that you would like to be treated and you will do just fine. Do your best to to let hate into your life because hate feeds on the one who creates it not on the one it is directed at.
Don't be afraid to ask for help from those who love you.
Take care.
love and blessings DonIf you could give advice to your younger self, what would it be?
go to college, get a job, get married, have kids...........in that order
NOT.............get pregnant, get married, have kids, get a crappy job, go to college
Listen to your ma ma..... really listen to the people who love you or care about your future. There is great wisdom about what would be the better path. When we are young we feel like we knew it all and our rebellious nature made everything mom and dad said sound stupid.....I would be better off if I had listened, really listened.
Love yourself. Don't let anyone take that from you. You are the best friend you will ever have.
Love others. People aren't perfect but being angry %26amp; hateful hurts you more than them.
Love the world. It's a beautiful planet. Appreciate it. Watch the sunrise %26amp; set. Explore the awesome wonder of God's creations.
Live in the moment. It is precious. Don't take anything for granted. Make the most of each day.
It is a gift to be alive. Sometimes life can be hard. It can seem cruel. Sometimes tragedies happen %26amp; you will need to grieve. But you will be ok. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You will heal. You can survive the ugliness and find the beauty of life again.
Be happy. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
Never say never, because you just don't know what fate has in store for you. Believe in miracles, and work hard to create one.
I would give no 'advice', because if I did, something would inevitably change, and I would not be where I am today.
What do you need advice on? And why do you feel like a 'dolt'? I cannot answer a question you do not ask.
Don't smoke.
Buy real estate.
Safe sex.
no drinking until your at least 8
i would give my younger self a hug, cause i was alone.
Your own self-worth is not dependent on a man's (or anyone's) feelings for you.
my advice would be don't listen to advice from older people. Live your life, and learn from your mistakes.
Watch out for that cricket ba....ouch!
listen to the folks
My advice to me would be to suck it up and stay at home when I turned 18 and go to college. I made life so much harder on myself than it had to be by moving out and starting ';life';.
Now, with that said, I don't regreat anything in my life. Everything I've done and been through has made me who I am today. It just would have been easier the other way!
Do not lose your virginity to that weasely creep!!! He may seem nice but he's a jerk!!! LOL!
Get a job that allows you to travel the world
I'm looking to buy a Jump bike, any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated:)?
It would would be my first jump bike. I am currently riding a BMX for the dirt tracks but i would love to have a jump bike.
I'm planning on spending about 500 quid?
What i would love is the lightness and maneuverability of a BMX plus the great benefits of a jump bike.
And advice on what to buy or look for will be appreciated.
Oh and if anyone tells me how to *give points* or whatever i will sure give them away :)I'm looking to buy a Jump bike, any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated:)?
I would buy a used ';Specialized P.'; or a ';Kona Shonky'; which are both fairly expensive but you can find one used for a pretty good deal. : ) Try Pinkbike.com and Craigslist.org!
I'm planning on spending about 500 quid?
What i would love is the lightness and maneuverability of a BMX plus the great benefits of a jump bike.
And advice on what to buy or look for will be appreciated.
Oh and if anyone tells me how to *give points* or whatever i will sure give them away :)I'm looking to buy a Jump bike, any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated:)?
I would buy a used ';Specialized P.'; or a ';Kona Shonky'; which are both fairly expensive but you can find one used for a pretty good deal. : ) Try Pinkbike.com and Craigslist.org!
Do you have any advice or ideas to stop anxiety and be more relaxed towards life in general?
Can you recommend anything to stop anxiety due to daily stress and general problems? Is there a way to stop worrying to much about everything and not being able to relax?
Any ideas, recommendations or advices would be great. Thanks!Do you have any advice or ideas to stop anxiety and be more relaxed towards life in general?
I have GAD, and while I see a therapist and am on meds, there are many other things not QUITE that severe I suggest.
Read a funny book, watch a fun movie, take deep breaths and a 1 minute workout during the day, write down your worry and shred it, color, go for a walk, take time for a warm bath or shower, drink more water, enjoy a sunrise/sunset, take time our for YOU.Do you have any advice or ideas to stop anxiety and be more relaxed towards life in general?
Think of POSITIVE things that happened to your life,the most happiest moment you have. Always bear in Mind that Problems in Life is the Real Spice of Life that keeps you going. Always look at them as a Real Test of your Personal Capabilities. Be strong, PRAY, Problems come and Go if you will just analyze them, all problems have solutions just like in the School Assignments.
Built your SELF CONFIDENCE, this one good way to fight anxiety and be RELAX in facing all trials of life.Never,never let problems stays in your mind once you get rid of it,MOVE FORWARD let it go...it will not help you once you stored them in your Mental State. Hope this message helps you.
hiya
relax cd,there are loads of thing you could try
http://www.anxiety-and-depression-soluti鈥?/a>
talk to your doctor they maybe able to help
good luck hun :o)
Take a warm bath at night..or just go to your doctor and tell them you have anxiety..let them know your issues and they will give you meds to balance you out...sometimes theres nothing you can do because it it an imbalance, but the doctor can help you....everyone has daily stress..try to do excersise..set aside a time just for you....helps me:)
No electronics before bed would be one, or you could just look up about 5 billion other post about this topic
it's called choice.... look into it.
Xanax.
You need to go see your family Dr. With the help of medication, you can eventually feel like your a part of the world instead of being held hostage in your mind. Once the meds start working which generally takes as long as a month, then you start working on a mind set, and elevate stress that you really don't need in your life. If your serious, you can make it better, but you have to let some things go. ';Stop and smell the roses';!
smoke a joint every now and then
Meditate and think happy thoughts
read
You may not be able to totally stop the anxiety but you can get it more under control. Is there anything you can think of that if you could change it that would be less stressful? Work, friends atmosphere? Walking is wonderful and will cause your brain to produce a chemical that makes you feel better. I also have enjoyed attending a church and being involved. Volunteering at a school or a library, are something that your interested in is also good because their are so many blessings that come from it. You want to control your anxiety not have it control you. If you feel that you need to share this with your doctor feel free to. We are living in such a fast moving world and sometimes we need to slow it down a bit.
Try this program. I did and It has helped me in so many areas of life I can't even count them all.
Lucinda Bassett's Attacking Anxiety and depression. http:// www.stresscenter.com
customer service 1-800-944-9460
customer information 1-800-944-9428
Phone support 1-800-515-1133
risperdahl. also relieves voices, guilt, feelings of responsibility, needs for sex drive. possible side effects include unhappy wife, but you won't care.
Any ideas, recommendations or advices would be great. Thanks!Do you have any advice or ideas to stop anxiety and be more relaxed towards life in general?
I have GAD, and while I see a therapist and am on meds, there are many other things not QUITE that severe I suggest.
Read a funny book, watch a fun movie, take deep breaths and a 1 minute workout during the day, write down your worry and shred it, color, go for a walk, take time for a warm bath or shower, drink more water, enjoy a sunrise/sunset, take time our for YOU.Do you have any advice or ideas to stop anxiety and be more relaxed towards life in general?
Think of POSITIVE things that happened to your life,the most happiest moment you have. Always bear in Mind that Problems in Life is the Real Spice of Life that keeps you going. Always look at them as a Real Test of your Personal Capabilities. Be strong, PRAY, Problems come and Go if you will just analyze them, all problems have solutions just like in the School Assignments.
Built your SELF CONFIDENCE, this one good way to fight anxiety and be RELAX in facing all trials of life.Never,never let problems stays in your mind once you get rid of it,MOVE FORWARD let it go...it will not help you once you stored them in your Mental State. Hope this message helps you.
hiya
relax cd,there are loads of thing you could try
http://www.anxiety-and-depression-soluti鈥?/a>
talk to your doctor they maybe able to help
good luck hun :o)
Take a warm bath at night..or just go to your doctor and tell them you have anxiety..let them know your issues and they will give you meds to balance you out...sometimes theres nothing you can do because it it an imbalance, but the doctor can help you....everyone has daily stress..try to do excersise..set aside a time just for you....helps me:)
No electronics before bed would be one, or you could just look up about 5 billion other post about this topic
it's called choice.... look into it.
Xanax.
You need to go see your family Dr. With the help of medication, you can eventually feel like your a part of the world instead of being held hostage in your mind. Once the meds start working which generally takes as long as a month, then you start working on a mind set, and elevate stress that you really don't need in your life. If your serious, you can make it better, but you have to let some things go. ';Stop and smell the roses';!
smoke a joint every now and then
Meditate and think happy thoughts
read
You may not be able to totally stop the anxiety but you can get it more under control. Is there anything you can think of that if you could change it that would be less stressful? Work, friends atmosphere? Walking is wonderful and will cause your brain to produce a chemical that makes you feel better. I also have enjoyed attending a church and being involved. Volunteering at a school or a library, are something that your interested in is also good because their are so many blessings that come from it. You want to control your anxiety not have it control you. If you feel that you need to share this with your doctor feel free to. We are living in such a fast moving world and sometimes we need to slow it down a bit.
Try this program. I did and It has helped me in so many areas of life I can't even count them all.
Lucinda Bassett's Attacking Anxiety and depression. http:// www.stresscenter.com
customer service 1-800-944-9460
customer information 1-800-944-9428
Phone support 1-800-515-1133
risperdahl. also relieves voices, guilt, feelings of responsibility, needs for sex drive. possible side effects include unhappy wife, but you won't care.
I will be travelling to Bangkok and Macau for the first time. Any advice or useful tips you can give?
Anything in particular I should take with me?
(genuine answers pls, not sarcastic ones, thanks).I will be travelling to Bangkok and Macau for the first time. Any advice or useful tips you can give?
Take plenty of condoms for BKK %26amp; load your wallet for Macau.I will be travelling to Bangkok and Macau for the first time. Any advice or useful tips you can give?
If you plan to travel within the cities then loose coton clothing is good. Carry some loose local currencies in small changes. Try respect the local customs as you go.eye makeup tips pores
(genuine answers pls, not sarcastic ones, thanks).I will be travelling to Bangkok and Macau for the first time. Any advice or useful tips you can give?
Take plenty of condoms for BKK %26amp; load your wallet for Macau.I will be travelling to Bangkok and Macau for the first time. Any advice or useful tips you can give?
If you plan to travel within the cities then loose coton clothing is good. Carry some loose local currencies in small changes. Try respect the local customs as you go.
I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
I have the basics like what and how to pack. we will be leaving around midnight and arriving aprox 10am sunday morning. we would like driving tips and etc. we want to go to the ocean. whats the best and closest beach and what way to get there?I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
Well i hope that you stay away from the Pennsylvania Turnpike b/c there was a bad accident that took place around the 4th of July of this year that took a couple of lives...not saying that to scare you but it is a very windy road nonetheless.I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
Take 80 all the way then go onto the xbronx to LI and head to jones beach. Jones beach is about another hour to hour and a half after you hit the bx depending on traffic. Traffic reports every 10 minutes on 1010 wins on the ones 880 cbs on the eights and 1130 blomberg radio on the fives. Good Luck
Well i hope that you stay away from the Pennsylvania Turnpike b/c there was a bad accident that took place around the 4th of July of this year that took a couple of lives...not saying that to scare you but it is a very windy road nonetheless.I will be driving from Detroit to new york (Manhattan) in a few weeks. I would like to get all the advice poss
Take 80 all the way then go onto the xbronx to LI and head to jones beach. Jones beach is about another hour to hour and a half after you hit the bx depending on traffic. Traffic reports every 10 minutes on 1010 wins on the ones 880 cbs on the eights and 1130 blomberg radio on the fives. Good Luck
My dog won't let my friend put his leash on him, and hes going to be dogsitting him for three weeks. Advice?
The dog will be home most nights alone (with food and water) but he should be walked too but he wont let anyone but myself put his leash on him!!
What should we do?
The kennels near my home dont walk the dogs enough and I dont want him to be in a cage for three weeks.My dog won't let my friend put his leash on him, and hes going to be dogsitting him for three weeks. Advice?
Invest in a slip leash, the sort that is used on working gundogs, that way the leash is looped over the head and as the handle is pulled, the 'collar area gets smaller, until it is like he is on a regular leash. This way your friend has a hold of the dog. His regular leash can then be clipped onto his regular collar and the slip removed. Get your friend to practice while you are there, and it would als obe an idea for you to use the same method to get your dog used to it.
Do you watch its me or the dog? Theris a chihuahua on series 4 with the same issue and thats how they sorted it.
Check out the website and look for 'Niles' in the series 4 section.
http://www.channel4.com/entertainment/tv鈥?/a>My dog won't let my friend put his leash on him, and hes going to be dogsitting him for three weeks. Advice?
My neighbor just moved to Kansas and literally gave me his female great dane and blue healer mix female. These dogs were staved for love and both had rickets and flea infestation. He threw them in a small pen and fed them very little. Neither had walked on a leash. I used a chocker to start with. This is how I trained them in one day. It is not hard. You just have to have lots of patience and love.
When I used to dog sit a new dog, I would sit on the floor, read a book, and let the dog come to me. By sitting on the floor, I was at the dogs lever. By reading, the dog got used to my voice. The dog came to me at his or her own pace, then I would let the dog smell me and get used to me for a few minutes before I attempted to pet them or put a leash on them.
have your leash on your dog when your friend is over, then get your dog to calm down, and with treat in hand, have your friend try to just remove his leash....then repeat...for a few days...
then try it the other way, treat and putting on the leash...
it should work...
Unless that friend is just not liked by dogs in general...
peace...woof woof...greggace
bring your friend over every day before you go away and let the dog get used to him give the dog a treat and let your friend put his leash on while he is eating he wont notice if you give him a treat while distracting him hope this works
Try holding a treat in front of your dogs nose and if the dog is good give them the treat.
I am having trouble understanding how hard it is to put a leash on a dog.
Perhaps this should teach you something. Right?
What should we do?
The kennels near my home dont walk the dogs enough and I dont want him to be in a cage for three weeks.My dog won't let my friend put his leash on him, and hes going to be dogsitting him for three weeks. Advice?
Invest in a slip leash, the sort that is used on working gundogs, that way the leash is looped over the head and as the handle is pulled, the 'collar area gets smaller, until it is like he is on a regular leash. This way your friend has a hold of the dog. His regular leash can then be clipped onto his regular collar and the slip removed. Get your friend to practice while you are there, and it would als obe an idea for you to use the same method to get your dog used to it.
Do you watch its me or the dog? Theris a chihuahua on series 4 with the same issue and thats how they sorted it.
Check out the website and look for 'Niles' in the series 4 section.
http://www.channel4.com/entertainment/tv鈥?/a>My dog won't let my friend put his leash on him, and hes going to be dogsitting him for three weeks. Advice?
My neighbor just moved to Kansas and literally gave me his female great dane and blue healer mix female. These dogs were staved for love and both had rickets and flea infestation. He threw them in a small pen and fed them very little. Neither had walked on a leash. I used a chocker to start with. This is how I trained them in one day. It is not hard. You just have to have lots of patience and love.
When I used to dog sit a new dog, I would sit on the floor, read a book, and let the dog come to me. By sitting on the floor, I was at the dogs lever. By reading, the dog got used to my voice. The dog came to me at his or her own pace, then I would let the dog smell me and get used to me for a few minutes before I attempted to pet them or put a leash on them.
have your leash on your dog when your friend is over, then get your dog to calm down, and with treat in hand, have your friend try to just remove his leash....then repeat...for a few days...
then try it the other way, treat and putting on the leash...
it should work...
Unless that friend is just not liked by dogs in general...
peace...woof woof...greggace
bring your friend over every day before you go away and let the dog get used to him give the dog a treat and let your friend put his leash on while he is eating he wont notice if you give him a treat while distracting him hope this works
Try holding a treat in front of your dogs nose and if the dog is good give them the treat.
I am having trouble understanding how hard it is to put a leash on a dog.
Perhaps this should teach you something. Right?
I want to be a police officer when I get older, any advice?
Ever since I was 4 and watching the Cops and Worlds Wildest Police chases I've wanted to be a police officer. I want to go to Miami. I am currently in the 9th and I plan to go to College Of Criminology and Criminal Justice there. Is there any advice or hints on how to get through college and what to expect or what's going to be the hardest subject that I'll have to work my hardest in?I want to be a police officer when I get older, any advice?
A lot of departments want officers to have 2 or 4 year degrees in things like Psychology or English instead of Administration of Justice. While you're working on your degree, find a department that hires cadets (some departments even pay their cadets). Stay out of trouble while you're in school and try to stay in good shape physically. Hopefully by the time you're done with school the department you're working at will pay for your academy training and hire you from there. And by the way...please don't be too let down when you discover the real thing ain't like you saw it on tv.I want to be a police officer when I get older, any advice?
Sorry you were abused as a child.
For me, in my time, it was a good career and I enjoy retirement. Most of other replies are dead on, however. Dont box yourself in to one career. Real Police is more like the old Barney Miller TV show than COPS. Aint nothing glamourous about investigating a dry floater and helping to haul it. Keep an excellant sense of humor as you will need it. Get lucky and get a good wife. She will help more than you could know. Good luck and God bless
Admirable choice. Just remember to keep your sense of decency, be a decent and good cop - you'll go far.
stop!!! why would you go through college and spend all that time and money to become a police officer? listen to me. find somthing that is more challenging in college. you can always take electives in criminal justice. if you do not suceed in another feild of study you can always fall back on law enforcement. stay out of trouble, exercise, and get smart. what i mean by this is study all different interests. becoming one tracked could hurt you worse. become well rounded. crimial law is interesting but you can self educate yourself just by purchsing the books. i hope you like to read. do not go to college to become a police officer. become a teacher if that fails you will have your degree in education. do not set your sights low if your planning on going to college. a large majority of police do not have a college education. i am not saying they are dumb at all it is a good career. if you don't listen you will soon find out what i went through. keep your head up. take advantage of opportunities.
Don't do anything illegal. Don't associate with people who are trouble makers. You have no idea how something little can screw your life up.
Examples:
%26gt; Dating a minor when you are over 18 can get you put on the sex offender list.
%26gt; Poor driving record can disqualify you from a department.
%26gt; DUI WILL disqualify you.
%26gt; Any drug charge WILL disqualify you and possibly send you to jail.
Play it straight. You can do anything.
You are young, and sadly young people make mistakes that can go with them for the rest of their lives. I had a very good friend get caught with drugs when he was 15. It wasn't anything serious just pot, but he wanted to become a cop. Well he was sentanced as an adult and when he graduated high school and tried to get into the police academy they wouldn't let him in because of the drug charge.
So he joined the marines, became an MP, and had to BEG the city of Los Angeles to hire him because that was one of the only stations that was willing to take him in.
So what you do now, can and will effect you for the rest of your life if thats the career you are going to pursue. The best thing I can suggest is get into a ';explorers'; program, and consider ROTC when you go to college.
A lot of departments want officers to have 2 or 4 year degrees in things like Psychology or English instead of Administration of Justice. While you're working on your degree, find a department that hires cadets (some departments even pay their cadets). Stay out of trouble while you're in school and try to stay in good shape physically. Hopefully by the time you're done with school the department you're working at will pay for your academy training and hire you from there. And by the way...please don't be too let down when you discover the real thing ain't like you saw it on tv.I want to be a police officer when I get older, any advice?
Sorry you were abused as a child.
For me, in my time, it was a good career and I enjoy retirement. Most of other replies are dead on, however. Dont box yourself in to one career. Real Police is more like the old Barney Miller TV show than COPS. Aint nothing glamourous about investigating a dry floater and helping to haul it. Keep an excellant sense of humor as you will need it. Get lucky and get a good wife. She will help more than you could know. Good luck and God bless
Admirable choice. Just remember to keep your sense of decency, be a decent and good cop - you'll go far.
stop!!! why would you go through college and spend all that time and money to become a police officer? listen to me. find somthing that is more challenging in college. you can always take electives in criminal justice. if you do not suceed in another feild of study you can always fall back on law enforcement. stay out of trouble, exercise, and get smart. what i mean by this is study all different interests. becoming one tracked could hurt you worse. become well rounded. crimial law is interesting but you can self educate yourself just by purchsing the books. i hope you like to read. do not go to college to become a police officer. become a teacher if that fails you will have your degree in education. do not set your sights low if your planning on going to college. a large majority of police do not have a college education. i am not saying they are dumb at all it is a good career. if you don't listen you will soon find out what i went through. keep your head up. take advantage of opportunities.
Don't do anything illegal. Don't associate with people who are trouble makers. You have no idea how something little can screw your life up.
Examples:
%26gt; Dating a minor when you are over 18 can get you put on the sex offender list.
%26gt; Poor driving record can disqualify you from a department.
%26gt; DUI WILL disqualify you.
%26gt; Any drug charge WILL disqualify you and possibly send you to jail.
Play it straight. You can do anything.
You are young, and sadly young people make mistakes that can go with them for the rest of their lives. I had a very good friend get caught with drugs when he was 15. It wasn't anything serious just pot, but he wanted to become a cop. Well he was sentanced as an adult and when he graduated high school and tried to get into the police academy they wouldn't let him in because of the drug charge.
So he joined the marines, became an MP, and had to BEG the city of Los Angeles to hire him because that was one of the only stations that was willing to take him in.
So what you do now, can and will effect you for the rest of your life if thats the career you are going to pursue. The best thing I can suggest is get into a ';explorers'; program, and consider ROTC when you go to college.
I don't want to stop drinking. I just want to be able to control it a little more. Any advice?
Only drink beer.
Everyone I know (including family) drinks.
Tired of feeling like hell the next day.
Have a great time while I'm drinking.I don't want to stop drinking. I just want to be able to control it a little more. Any advice?
Best way to learn if you can 'control it a little more' is to actually stop for a bit. Completely. Sounds as if you're skirting around whether you've actually got a problem or not. What happened to self-control? Saying no and meaning it?I don't want to stop drinking. I just want to be able to control it a little more. Any advice?
lol... u r an alcoholic
That is so funny, but not possible. Believe me, Alcohol will ALWAYS control you. A good comparison would be trying to control a bad case of diarrhea by squeezing your but cheeks. It just ain't going to happen!
Limit yourself Its easier if you know how long your gonna be some where. And with beer its so easy to drink a lot because you want to drink it before it gets hot and then you grab another one with out realizing it but before you know it your toast. Try to keep to a beer per 30-45 min depending on where you are. And remeber if you drink less it saves you money.
Get some chamomile flowers, you can buy them in ';Tea';bags. Make a pot of chamomile brew, ie a couple of bags and leave the boiling water on for half an hour to stew. When you've had a couple of beers change over to the chamomile brew.
You'll be amazed. And what a sleep!
So cut back. You don't have to go cold turkey - just gradually cut back your amount so that when you DO drink, you'll feel greater impact from fewer beers - better for both your health and your wallet.
-Make a deal with yourself that for every beer you drink, you'll follow it with an equal amount of water before you have another beer.
-Or try only drinking when you're seated at a meal, or only on weekend nights.
You are right on the edge! You must stop right now because you are on that slippery slope to alcoholism. You must question yourself on why you seems to only have fun when you are drinking and why your family and friends seem to only have fun drinking.
I like drinking too but i dont drink like a ';retard';
Well, it is going to be hard with people drinking in front of you all the time.....However, you can do it.
Your body is saying, I want it, your mind is saying no.
Sure you have a good time, but you know, really, it is not
worth it, when you wake up.
Try to put a certain amounts of beer bottles, or cans in a place, that you have made.....say, you drink 15 bottles at night, more or less.....kindly heavy, nevertheless, lets start from there.
so, each night, after you have consumed, whatever number...
leave the ones you drank on the coffee table....
Try now, to see how many you drank.......normally, you would not know because you are not counting....feels good.
Now you know.....try to take 1 or 2 away.....start at the beginning....so you know what you have consumed.
Truthfully, I think it might work...maybe not.
At least you are trying.
One other way, is to eat.......yes, even if you are drinking beer....Yes, probably you do not want to......But believe me,
you will not feel so bad in the morning.
Yes, mind over matter...you can do it!!
Try anyway, you have nothing to lose.
You sound like a wonderful person....
It it tough....try it, I think it may work.
I agree with Nine....just say no for a few weeks. Cold turkey - just don't drink.
This will bring down your tolerance level a bit and the next time you start drinking, you'll find that you feel wasted much earlier than before. That in and of itself helps you to not drink as much.
Another thing you can do is to drink a non-alcoholic beverage in between beers. It doesn't have to be a large amount of anything - just something that slows you down a bit. I hate the feeling of having too much liquid in my stomach whilst drinking...it makes me put the brakes on a little. Just don't drink anything too sugary -bad combo.
Good luck to you!
dont drink to much... i know its hard to have just one but make that one or the second one last a long time...
First, decide how much beer you normally drink, and reduce the amount you buy. If you drink a case, go get an 18 pack next time, if you drink an 18pack, get a 12 pack, etc. Make sure you buy only Bottled beer, that is essential for step two, twist tops preferred.
Next, go buy some Ipicac. Open one of the beers in your 12 or 6 pack and pour in some Ipicac. Twist the lid back on, and then mix up all the beers so you don't know which one it is. If you want, have a friend do this step for you.
Lastly, drink like you normally would. Once you find the Ipicac one, you'll stop drinking for the night. It's like Russian rullet for alcoholic awareness.
Everyone I know (including family) drinks.
Tired of feeling like hell the next day.
Have a great time while I'm drinking.I don't want to stop drinking. I just want to be able to control it a little more. Any advice?
Best way to learn if you can 'control it a little more' is to actually stop for a bit. Completely. Sounds as if you're skirting around whether you've actually got a problem or not. What happened to self-control? Saying no and meaning it?I don't want to stop drinking. I just want to be able to control it a little more. Any advice?
lol... u r an alcoholic
That is so funny, but not possible. Believe me, Alcohol will ALWAYS control you. A good comparison would be trying to control a bad case of diarrhea by squeezing your but cheeks. It just ain't going to happen!
Limit yourself Its easier if you know how long your gonna be some where. And with beer its so easy to drink a lot because you want to drink it before it gets hot and then you grab another one with out realizing it but before you know it your toast. Try to keep to a beer per 30-45 min depending on where you are. And remeber if you drink less it saves you money.
Get some chamomile flowers, you can buy them in ';Tea';bags. Make a pot of chamomile brew, ie a couple of bags and leave the boiling water on for half an hour to stew. When you've had a couple of beers change over to the chamomile brew.
You'll be amazed. And what a sleep!
So cut back. You don't have to go cold turkey - just gradually cut back your amount so that when you DO drink, you'll feel greater impact from fewer beers - better for both your health and your wallet.
-Make a deal with yourself that for every beer you drink, you'll follow it with an equal amount of water before you have another beer.
-Or try only drinking when you're seated at a meal, or only on weekend nights.
You are right on the edge! You must stop right now because you are on that slippery slope to alcoholism. You must question yourself on why you seems to only have fun when you are drinking and why your family and friends seem to only have fun drinking.
I like drinking too but i dont drink like a ';retard';
Well, it is going to be hard with people drinking in front of you all the time.....However, you can do it.
Your body is saying, I want it, your mind is saying no.
Sure you have a good time, but you know, really, it is not
worth it, when you wake up.
Try to put a certain amounts of beer bottles, or cans in a place, that you have made.....say, you drink 15 bottles at night, more or less.....kindly heavy, nevertheless, lets start from there.
so, each night, after you have consumed, whatever number...
leave the ones you drank on the coffee table....
Try now, to see how many you drank.......normally, you would not know because you are not counting....feels good.
Now you know.....try to take 1 or 2 away.....start at the beginning....so you know what you have consumed.
Truthfully, I think it might work...maybe not.
At least you are trying.
One other way, is to eat.......yes, even if you are drinking beer....Yes, probably you do not want to......But believe me,
you will not feel so bad in the morning.
Yes, mind over matter...you can do it!!
Try anyway, you have nothing to lose.
You sound like a wonderful person....
It it tough....try it, I think it may work.
I agree with Nine....just say no for a few weeks. Cold turkey - just don't drink.
This will bring down your tolerance level a bit and the next time you start drinking, you'll find that you feel wasted much earlier than before. That in and of itself helps you to not drink as much.
Another thing you can do is to drink a non-alcoholic beverage in between beers. It doesn't have to be a large amount of anything - just something that slows you down a bit. I hate the feeling of having too much liquid in my stomach whilst drinking...it makes me put the brakes on a little. Just don't drink anything too sugary -bad combo.
Good luck to you!
dont drink to much... i know its hard to have just one but make that one or the second one last a long time...
First, decide how much beer you normally drink, and reduce the amount you buy. If you drink a case, go get an 18 pack next time, if you drink an 18pack, get a 12 pack, etc. Make sure you buy only Bottled beer, that is essential for step two, twist tops preferred.
Next, go buy some Ipicac. Open one of the beers in your 12 or 6 pack and pour in some Ipicac. Twist the lid back on, and then mix up all the beers so you don't know which one it is. If you want, have a friend do this step for you.
Lastly, drink like you normally would. Once you find the Ipicac one, you'll stop drinking for the night. It's like Russian rullet for alcoholic awareness.
Does anyone have good advice for a new Dad to be?
We are expecting our first baby (boy) in about 2 months.Does anyone have good advice for a new Dad to be?
Congratulations!
As a mother to a dad-to-be, I would say first and foremost, be patient with your wife. Parenting is hard, and you are both going to be tired, and irritable, as you are sleep-deprived. You are going to be learning new roles, as well as learning the new dynamics of your relationship.
I would also suggest getting up with the baby once in a while. Do a nighttime feeding, or let your wife sleep-in once in a while. Harder if nursing, but your wife can pump.
Also, learn all the routines: bathing, diapering, nighttime, sick-time. Even if your wife does all those things pretty much all the time, there are going to be days when she is sick, or exhausted, and it will be nice for her if you can do those things. And, if you do it once in a while, your son won't freak out, because he will know you can do things, too.
Oh, and I know it is important to moms, I am sure it is important for dads, too, be easy on yourself. You are going to make a million mistakes. Probably by the end of the first day. But, you are learning! Remember that!
And relax! Ask for help when you need it! Find someone to vent to!
Long answer, hope it helps!Does anyone have good advice for a new Dad to be?
Jump in there %26amp; parent right alongside your wife. She's going to feel responsible for your child's well-being 24/7. You should, too. Even if she's had some more experience with childcare than you, or has been raised to be more confident in her ability to nurture, she's never taken care of *this baby*, either. It's going to be a learning experience for both of you. Do it together. Respect each other's feelings. The whole next 18 years will be much more fulfilling and bring both of you closer together if you stay in there parenting with her the whole time.
help out with mom and baby
support mom and baby
love them
care for them
pay for things for both of them
Be there for your wife in the early days especially. All the attention will be shifted to the baby and it is important for your wife to feel loved and that some one understands what she just went thru. Giving birth and bringing a baby into this world is INCREDIBLY emotional.
Enjoy your baby boy.
Enjoy every moment because it goes by fast.
Take lots of pictures.
Help with the baby and take turns sleeping if possible. (one night on baby duty, one night off worked for us) But I know that's difficult if you have to go right back to work. Take as much time off as you can at first. My hubby took off six weeks and it was great.
Change diapers often, you'll make your wife incredibly happy! Get in on it right from the start, even if you're scared of your baby.
Love your baby and your wife.
As long as you do that everything else will fall into place.
Congrats!
don't put off anything you plan on doing ';before the baby comes'; because you never know whent the little guy will decide to show up! finish everythig you started and make sure all you planned on doing is done! once the precious gift arrives you won't have time to or want to worry about all of those other things... Our little man came 3 weeks early and 7 months later we still haven't gotten everything done!!! Good luck
First of all, think of something very special to give your wife upon delivery of your son. If possible, stay with her in the hospital to begin the bonding process. Make a sign for the yard to welcome her home. If her mother is available, allow her to stay over from time to time. A new mother needs her own mom for advise and support. Be patient and loving. It will be a roller coaster for a few weeks but well worth it.
Congratulations!
As a mother to a dad-to-be, I would say first and foremost, be patient with your wife. Parenting is hard, and you are both going to be tired, and irritable, as you are sleep-deprived. You are going to be learning new roles, as well as learning the new dynamics of your relationship.
I would also suggest getting up with the baby once in a while. Do a nighttime feeding, or let your wife sleep-in once in a while. Harder if nursing, but your wife can pump.
Also, learn all the routines: bathing, diapering, nighttime, sick-time. Even if your wife does all those things pretty much all the time, there are going to be days when she is sick, or exhausted, and it will be nice for her if you can do those things. And, if you do it once in a while, your son won't freak out, because he will know you can do things, too.
Oh, and I know it is important to moms, I am sure it is important for dads, too, be easy on yourself. You are going to make a million mistakes. Probably by the end of the first day. But, you are learning! Remember that!
And relax! Ask for help when you need it! Find someone to vent to!
Long answer, hope it helps!Does anyone have good advice for a new Dad to be?
Jump in there %26amp; parent right alongside your wife. She's going to feel responsible for your child's well-being 24/7. You should, too. Even if she's had some more experience with childcare than you, or has been raised to be more confident in her ability to nurture, she's never taken care of *this baby*, either. It's going to be a learning experience for both of you. Do it together. Respect each other's feelings. The whole next 18 years will be much more fulfilling and bring both of you closer together if you stay in there parenting with her the whole time.
help out with mom and baby
support mom and baby
love them
care for them
pay for things for both of them
Be there for your wife in the early days especially. All the attention will be shifted to the baby and it is important for your wife to feel loved and that some one understands what she just went thru. Giving birth and bringing a baby into this world is INCREDIBLY emotional.
Enjoy your baby boy.
Enjoy every moment because it goes by fast.
Take lots of pictures.
Help with the baby and take turns sleeping if possible. (one night on baby duty, one night off worked for us) But I know that's difficult if you have to go right back to work. Take as much time off as you can at first. My hubby took off six weeks and it was great.
Change diapers often, you'll make your wife incredibly happy! Get in on it right from the start, even if you're scared of your baby.
Love your baby and your wife.
As long as you do that everything else will fall into place.
Congrats!
don't put off anything you plan on doing ';before the baby comes'; because you never know whent the little guy will decide to show up! finish everythig you started and make sure all you planned on doing is done! once the precious gift arrives you won't have time to or want to worry about all of those other things... Our little man came 3 weeks early and 7 months later we still haven't gotten everything done!!! Good luck
First of all, think of something very special to give your wife upon delivery of your son. If possible, stay with her in the hospital to begin the bonding process. Make a sign for the yard to welcome her home. If her mother is available, allow her to stay over from time to time. A new mother needs her own mom for advise and support. Be patient and loving. It will be a roller coaster for a few weeks but well worth it.
Could I have some advice on how to be more chilled out?
I'm not an angry person and everything, just wondering if I could be totally chilled out.Could I have some advice on how to be more chilled out?
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath.
Get away from noise, other people, and clutter.
(or any stimuli.)
And clear your mind.
Meditate.Could I have some advice on how to be more chilled out?
do yoga
I am 'the most chilled person' on the planet. How do I do it? I maintain a peace of mind. I believe in myself. I don't try to be something I'm not. I know I'll be accepted by those that matter to me because I am confident. I'm cool. Inside and out.
Not only do I project this but I feel it too. It's a state of mind.
You don't have to join the Army to be all you can be.
Romans 10
Jesus can give you peace.
its your lucky day ,vata! I just happen to be the most chill vato in the world. I spend my time cutting vatos that are not chill.
Here's my magic guide:
How to become a chill vato/vata
step 1
Cut anyone you have any type of disliking towards(cut them good)
step 2
Buy a house trained puppy and name him killer...dogs are chill and so you will be chill by association.
step 3
Make sure all your debts are paid.(having debts make you unchill)
step 4
Drink constantly and always follow with chaser tablets.(numb the unchill factor and make sure you're still chill after the numb is gone.)
step 5
Do cut the director of your AA meetings and of course any employers you still posess.(this is kind of backtracking to step 1 ,but its very crucial)
That's it; you should be almost as chill as me by now
Have a very chill vato cutting day ,vata!eye makeup tips pores
Close your eyes.
Take a deep breath.
Get away from noise, other people, and clutter.
(or any stimuli.)
And clear your mind.
Meditate.Could I have some advice on how to be more chilled out?
do yoga
I am 'the most chilled person' on the planet. How do I do it? I maintain a peace of mind. I believe in myself. I don't try to be something I'm not. I know I'll be accepted by those that matter to me because I am confident. I'm cool. Inside and out.
Not only do I project this but I feel it too. It's a state of mind.
You don't have to join the Army to be all you can be.
Romans 10
Jesus can give you peace.
its your lucky day ,vata! I just happen to be the most chill vato in the world. I spend my time cutting vatos that are not chill.
Here's my magic guide:
How to become a chill vato/vata
step 1
Cut anyone you have any type of disliking towards(cut them good)
step 2
Buy a house trained puppy and name him killer...dogs are chill and so you will be chill by association.
step 3
Make sure all your debts are paid.(having debts make you unchill)
step 4
Drink constantly and always follow with chaser tablets.(numb the unchill factor and make sure you're still chill after the numb is gone.)
step 5
Do cut the director of your AA meetings and of course any employers you still posess.(this is kind of backtracking to step 1 ,but its very crucial)
That's it; you should be almost as chill as me by now
Have a very chill vato cutting day ,vata!
Im 15 and I would love to be an actress, any advice?
I am 15, live in SA Australia and I am a girl.Im 15 and I would love to be an actress, any advice?
Being 15 is a big advantage in the acting world.
Your Young Still.
learning how to act is important
take drama classes around your area.
ask for your family and friends support
they will support you through thick..and thin..
Be versatile when it comes to your physical appearance..
are you willing to cut your hair?
loose more weight? add on 30 pounds?
In the acting business you'll get judge on your..
looks..
your fashion..
everything..
So being an actress is not the easiest..
but remember one thing..
Be your self..
not someone that tries too hard to fit in =)Im 15 and I would love to be an actress, any advice?
SA thats not too good, I wouldn't waste your money on agents as their is close to 0 work their so just get some acting classes and get involved in thatre. Then come and move to syd or melb or something!
get an agent or something
or go to drama classes, or do drama at school, or drama at uni.
go ahead
and when you become very very famous forget me not.....
Being 15 is a big advantage in the acting world.
Your Young Still.
learning how to act is important
take drama classes around your area.
ask for your family and friends support
they will support you through thick..and thin..
Be versatile when it comes to your physical appearance..
are you willing to cut your hair?
loose more weight? add on 30 pounds?
In the acting business you'll get judge on your..
looks..
your fashion..
everything..
So being an actress is not the easiest..
but remember one thing..
Be your self..
not someone that tries too hard to fit in =)Im 15 and I would love to be an actress, any advice?
SA thats not too good, I wouldn't waste your money on agents as their is close to 0 work their so just get some acting classes and get involved in thatre. Then come and move to syd or melb or something!
get an agent or something
or go to drama classes, or do drama at school, or drama at uni.
go ahead
and when you become very very famous forget me not.....
I want to be a realestate investor. I want to get advice from someone who is an investor about getting started
I'm tire of buying those get rich quick programs ( no money down, options, tax liens, creative realestate methods,buying notes, foreclosures,etc). I want to know from an investors experience what I have to do to be suceessful. Do I need out of pocket cash? good credit? Do I need to open up a corporation or LLC? Tell me everything.I want to be a realestate investor. I want to get advice from someone who is an investor about getting started
You need more just an answer here, but just some basic beginner's steps:
1. Buy as many books as you can (I'll recommend some below) about investing.
2. Avoid expensive real estate seminars costing more than $150. Look for the book alternative instead.
3. Open an LLC to protect your future assets.
4. Make sure your credit score is 650 or more to get some starting capital from loans and banks. Disputing credit reports are free, so don't fall for a credit repair scam.
5. Some must have websites you want to visit:
www.InvestingWithoutLosing.com
Forums.Biggerpockets.comI want to be a realestate investor. I want to get advice from someone who is an investor about getting started
There is no way anyone could tell your everything on Yahoo Answers. It would be as long as multiple books plus field work.
Here is a plan that can be covered in the space allowed.
1. Get to the library and see what is on the bookshelves. Little is really new so even the old books will have some great ideas.
2. Check your credit. Fix any mistakes. Sort out any late bills.
3. Start saving money. Spend less than you make. You can definitely buy without cash but many times the best deals involve cash from somewhere. Even driving around, running ads, answering the phone will take capital. If you are in business expect to fund your business.
4. With a little cash head to the bookstore and look for more books. The larger stores are great. They will have many different titles. You can sit and read for free. Buy the ones that seem really good. The ones that have so many great ideas it makes no sense to keep making notes.
5. Use the web. Check the details below. It is not like RE investing was started yesterday. There is a lot of great info out there.
6. Check the legal site on the link below. LLC and other such things have a place. Mostly later when you have some cash on the line or something to worry about losing. Start early getting things organized but do not spend a bunch of money setting up legal structures when there is nothing to protect. Any legal work done on the cheap is likely to result in a bigger nightmare so think twice about doing your own LLC filings.
Wealth Protection by Bronchick is under $20 and will explain most of what you need. A RE investor who is an attorney wrote it. It is best used as a guide for talking with an attorney so you ask the right question. Bronchick is one of the moderators of the legal forum at the URL below.
7. Attend and consider joining a local RE investment club. Find others who are doing what you want to do. People who are hands on in your area. They are normally very willing to share info as everyone tends to win when people talk about what is going on in the market.
8. Use social networking tools and things like address books to stay in touch with people. Focus on people who are real investors. Learn from others and be willing to share what you know. We all started at the beginning and most still remember what it was like.
You need more just an answer here, but just some basic beginner's steps:
1. Buy as many books as you can (I'll recommend some below) about investing.
2. Avoid expensive real estate seminars costing more than $150. Look for the book alternative instead.
3. Open an LLC to protect your future assets.
4. Make sure your credit score is 650 or more to get some starting capital from loans and banks. Disputing credit reports are free, so don't fall for a credit repair scam.
5. Some must have websites you want to visit:
www.InvestingWithoutLosing.com
Forums.Biggerpockets.comI want to be a realestate investor. I want to get advice from someone who is an investor about getting started
There is no way anyone could tell your everything on Yahoo Answers. It would be as long as multiple books plus field work.
Here is a plan that can be covered in the space allowed.
1. Get to the library and see what is on the bookshelves. Little is really new so even the old books will have some great ideas.
2. Check your credit. Fix any mistakes. Sort out any late bills.
3. Start saving money. Spend less than you make. You can definitely buy without cash but many times the best deals involve cash from somewhere. Even driving around, running ads, answering the phone will take capital. If you are in business expect to fund your business.
4. With a little cash head to the bookstore and look for more books. The larger stores are great. They will have many different titles. You can sit and read for free. Buy the ones that seem really good. The ones that have so many great ideas it makes no sense to keep making notes.
5. Use the web. Check the details below. It is not like RE investing was started yesterday. There is a lot of great info out there.
6. Check the legal site on the link below. LLC and other such things have a place. Mostly later when you have some cash on the line or something to worry about losing. Start early getting things organized but do not spend a bunch of money setting up legal structures when there is nothing to protect. Any legal work done on the cheap is likely to result in a bigger nightmare so think twice about doing your own LLC filings.
Wealth Protection by Bronchick is under $20 and will explain most of what you need. A RE investor who is an attorney wrote it. It is best used as a guide for talking with an attorney so you ask the right question. Bronchick is one of the moderators of the legal forum at the URL below.
7. Attend and consider joining a local RE investment club. Find others who are doing what you want to do. People who are hands on in your area. They are normally very willing to share info as everyone tends to win when people talk about what is going on in the market.
8. Use social networking tools and things like address books to stay in touch with people. Focus on people who are real investors. Learn from others and be willing to share what you know. We all started at the beginning and most still remember what it was like.
For all the new mums in here, if you could give advice to your pregnant self what would it be?
My fiancee only yesterday found out she is expecting. A lot of information is around about pregnancy do's and dont's. What would you tell us?For all the new mums in here, if you could give advice to your pregnant self what would it be?
1. Bring your own toilet paper to the hospital.
2. Don't listen to everyone's horror stories about labour. It's not that bad, and you'll get through it just fine.
3. Don't buy too much stuff in advance, I did that, and now my house is literally full of baby stuff I'll never use because so many people buy you gifts.For all the new mums in here, if you could give advice to your pregnant self what would it be?
1. Don't worry about breastfeeding, and don't let the nurses in the hospital scare you into thinking you will never do it right just because your baby doesn't want to nurse in the hospital! (It took a few days for my very lethargic daughter who experienced a traumatic birth to get accustomed to breastfeeding, and now she's a pro!)
2. Mommy (and Daddy!) knows best. Never let others make you feel inadequate because you're a new parent. They may have raised kids of their own, but they never raised YOUR baby.
3. People will want to play the ';pass around the baby'; game for a long time. You have every right to take that baby to address its needs whenever you see fit, even though people will actually complain that you do!
4. Look out, your hormones will be even more out of whack postpartum, and you will become a protective mama lioness. :)
5. This is the most important advice: ENJOY YOUR BABY. Don't worry about what milestones he/she ';should'; be achieving, or what other competitive parents say their kids are (supposedly) doing. Don't stress yourself out over whether your baby should have a schedule, or should be sleeping a certain amount, etc. That will all come in due time, and if you're patient, you and your baby will figure everything out together.
Parenthood is the most wonderful thing ever! You'll have a blast, trust me. :)
I would say to myself....the first three months you'll be knackered, the next 3 months will be good, you'll feel great and then the last part of the pregnancy you will feel really tired so take it easy and nothing you do to help the baby along will make a damn bit of difference, i tried everything and he came when he was ready.
Also get as much sleep as you can, there's no point in getting proper clothes for them other than baby grows at such an early age, especially jeans they are so stiff that the poor babies legs just don't lay right.
Accept all the help that is offered to you and make sure you make time for yourselves and not just the baby. Good luck, it's fantastic having children. For all the hard times and sleepless nights you have to go through, it's all worth it for that little smile xxx
To be realistic - everyone has airy fairy ideas about parenthood in the beginning and you spend too much time reading books, planning it all, buying things you will never really use etc..
The reality can be different so prepare yourselves now for a really tough few months, know you will both be absoloutely knackered, probably nark at each other etc etc
That said, it still is an amazing thing to happen - and once you find your feet as parents it will change your life for the better but as I say however hard you think it will be times that by 100.
Also do not spend too much time worrying about the pregnancy and labour - the hard work actually starts when he or she is here.
Finally, spend as much time resting - sleep sleep sleep etc, travelling, going out or having couple time NOW - you really will not stop for the first couple of years and do try and be a team, it will make all the difference and keep a sense of humour. Remember too in the early days that those tough sleepless nights etc will not be forever..it really does get much easier..
Good luck and many congratulations Daddy! x
Relax, towards the end, your baby WILL come, even though it feels like you have been pregnant forever, you will soon be holding your child. Don't be afraid to ask your midwife-if they've heard it hundreds of times before it's because other women are having the same worry.
Take time to rest, read a book, eat very slowly whatever you like and can eat, because you don't get as much time when baby is here. Although that sounds bad, it isn't, they are so worth it, I could write a book on it.
Think about what you will really need for the baby, don't buy it all at once, no matter how tempting that will be, you don't need a highchair until they are 6 months (though posh ones are from 4 months), you know in your mind what they need and don't need.
As a pregnant woman, continue doing as much or as little exercise as you have already been doing. Do not stop climbing or canoeing etc, just because you are pregnant, your body is used to the activity and it is not dangerous.
Enjoy every minute, and when the baby comes, love them dearly.
Congratulations to you both.
x
Spend as much time with your partner as you can. It's so easy to just pop out and do your own thing without kids and it is alot harder once there is a little one to care for.
Above anything else, enjoy the time you have to yourself, as soon as baby is here all your energy goes into caring for them. And enjoy being pregnant, it's really a lovely time, even with the aches and pains!
i would tell myself that pregnancy is not an excuse to go all out and eat whatever i want, whenever i want and how much i want. indulge once in a while is okay, but every 20 minutes is not appropriate.
Having a child changes your life - for the better! But as a couple you still need time for you or you will fall a part. And that means no baby talk, no cute stories - serious time for you and your partner.
don't smoke drink cut out coffee don't eat shellfish raw eggs or liver apart from that just enjoy being pregnant try not to worry to much although that can be hard.
Do tell people as soon as possible and don't eat for 2 till about 6 months.
Drink lots of water, get lots of sleep and relax :)
1. Bring your own toilet paper to the hospital.
2. Don't listen to everyone's horror stories about labour. It's not that bad, and you'll get through it just fine.
3. Don't buy too much stuff in advance, I did that, and now my house is literally full of baby stuff I'll never use because so many people buy you gifts.For all the new mums in here, if you could give advice to your pregnant self what would it be?
1. Don't worry about breastfeeding, and don't let the nurses in the hospital scare you into thinking you will never do it right just because your baby doesn't want to nurse in the hospital! (It took a few days for my very lethargic daughter who experienced a traumatic birth to get accustomed to breastfeeding, and now she's a pro!)
2. Mommy (and Daddy!) knows best. Never let others make you feel inadequate because you're a new parent. They may have raised kids of their own, but they never raised YOUR baby.
3. People will want to play the ';pass around the baby'; game for a long time. You have every right to take that baby to address its needs whenever you see fit, even though people will actually complain that you do!
4. Look out, your hormones will be even more out of whack postpartum, and you will become a protective mama lioness. :)
5. This is the most important advice: ENJOY YOUR BABY. Don't worry about what milestones he/she ';should'; be achieving, or what other competitive parents say their kids are (supposedly) doing. Don't stress yourself out over whether your baby should have a schedule, or should be sleeping a certain amount, etc. That will all come in due time, and if you're patient, you and your baby will figure everything out together.
Parenthood is the most wonderful thing ever! You'll have a blast, trust me. :)
I would say to myself....the first three months you'll be knackered, the next 3 months will be good, you'll feel great and then the last part of the pregnancy you will feel really tired so take it easy and nothing you do to help the baby along will make a damn bit of difference, i tried everything and he came when he was ready.
Also get as much sleep as you can, there's no point in getting proper clothes for them other than baby grows at such an early age, especially jeans they are so stiff that the poor babies legs just don't lay right.
Accept all the help that is offered to you and make sure you make time for yourselves and not just the baby. Good luck, it's fantastic having children. For all the hard times and sleepless nights you have to go through, it's all worth it for that little smile xxx
To be realistic - everyone has airy fairy ideas about parenthood in the beginning and you spend too much time reading books, planning it all, buying things you will never really use etc..
The reality can be different so prepare yourselves now for a really tough few months, know you will both be absoloutely knackered, probably nark at each other etc etc
That said, it still is an amazing thing to happen - and once you find your feet as parents it will change your life for the better but as I say however hard you think it will be times that by 100.
Also do not spend too much time worrying about the pregnancy and labour - the hard work actually starts when he or she is here.
Finally, spend as much time resting - sleep sleep sleep etc, travelling, going out or having couple time NOW - you really will not stop for the first couple of years and do try and be a team, it will make all the difference and keep a sense of humour. Remember too in the early days that those tough sleepless nights etc will not be forever..it really does get much easier..
Good luck and many congratulations Daddy! x
Relax, towards the end, your baby WILL come, even though it feels like you have been pregnant forever, you will soon be holding your child. Don't be afraid to ask your midwife-if they've heard it hundreds of times before it's because other women are having the same worry.
Take time to rest, read a book, eat very slowly whatever you like and can eat, because you don't get as much time when baby is here. Although that sounds bad, it isn't, they are so worth it, I could write a book on it.
Think about what you will really need for the baby, don't buy it all at once, no matter how tempting that will be, you don't need a highchair until they are 6 months (though posh ones are from 4 months), you know in your mind what they need and don't need.
As a pregnant woman, continue doing as much or as little exercise as you have already been doing. Do not stop climbing or canoeing etc, just because you are pregnant, your body is used to the activity and it is not dangerous.
Enjoy every minute, and when the baby comes, love them dearly.
Congratulations to you both.
x
Spend as much time with your partner as you can. It's so easy to just pop out and do your own thing without kids and it is alot harder once there is a little one to care for.
Above anything else, enjoy the time you have to yourself, as soon as baby is here all your energy goes into caring for them. And enjoy being pregnant, it's really a lovely time, even with the aches and pains!
i would tell myself that pregnancy is not an excuse to go all out and eat whatever i want, whenever i want and how much i want. indulge once in a while is okay, but every 20 minutes is not appropriate.
Having a child changes your life - for the better! But as a couple you still need time for you or you will fall a part. And that means no baby talk, no cute stories - serious time for you and your partner.
don't smoke drink cut out coffee don't eat shellfish raw eggs or liver apart from that just enjoy being pregnant try not to worry to much although that can be hard.
Do tell people as soon as possible and don't eat for 2 till about 6 months.
Drink lots of water, get lots of sleep and relax :)
I know I want to be a lawyer but don't know what I want to specialize in, advice?
I want to do good for the world and don't really care about salary. I know I don't want to do criminal defense or medical malpractice.
I know I want to be a lawyer but don't know what I want to specialize in, advice?
I want to do good for the world and don't really care about salary. I know I don't want to do criminal defense or medical malpractice.I know I want to be a lawyer but don't know what I want to specialize in, advice?
1. Go to law school, take a bunch of courses, read many cases, and decide what kind of cases interest you.
2. Talk to several lawyers.
3. Talk to the career center at your law school.I know I want to be a lawyer but don't know what I want to specialize in, advice?
The guy above me has some good advice. In addition, you'll have opportunities to intern in various law firms while you're in school. Try to find a legal aid firm, or one that does mostly pro bono work. You will have more than enough work to do, even as a student intern.
You have to get a job first......consider this
Warning! Jobs in the field of Law are drying up FAST!! This is not a good field to invest time and/or money into. This is a SHRINKING vocational field. Many reasons. Many people today think they can do their own legal work, thanks to the Internet. We simply have WAY TOO MANY Legal Professionals - we have an absolute GLUT!! (';Legal Professionals'; includes, but is not limited to: Attorneys/Lawyers, Paralegals, Legal Assistants, Legal Secretaries, Bailiffs, Court Reporters, etc, etc)
Regarding being a Paralegal: Paralegals can be found in many types of businesses. Employers (usually law firms) in the field of Law want employees with BACHELORS degrees from traditional universities/colleges. Those ';certificates'; you sometimes see advertised, aren't worth the paper they are printed on - they are generally SCAMS.
Even IF you finish law school, you won't be able to find a job when you are done. Since this vocational field is shrinking, many new attorneys/lawyers are, themselves, having to work ';down'; as Paralegals, Legal Assistants, Legal Secretaries, Bailiffs, Court Reporters, etc, etc, to simply try to keep some of THEIR bills paid %26lt;THIS would be your competition. And the competition is FIERCE!!
Now... the law schools know this, but they won't tell you the truth %26gt;that the job market/economy is SATURATED with WAY TOO MANY Legal Professionals. Instead the schools will feed you a fairytale and will LIE to you. The root of the problem is we have too many law schools. We are in a recession, and the schools are fighting for their own survival - they will tell students ANYTHING to get to the students' money. (Which is why they won't tell you the truth about the job market for the field of Law.) AND these schools continue to recruit and churn out even MORE Legal Professionals.............
If you don't believe me, then just do a SEARCH here on Yahoo Answers to see what other posters are saying about the current status of the field of Law.
In the book ';So You Want to be a Lawyer? by Marianne Calabrese and susanne Calabrese (ISBN 0-88391-136-1): ';The United States has more lawyers than any other country in the world. About 38,000 students graduate EACH YEAR from 200 law schools in the United States. The competition is very keen for jobs and clients.';
If you want a JOB when you are done with your studies, consider and look into the field of %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;HEALTHCARE! %26lt;THIS is where the jobs are! and scholarships!
getting your JD is quite costly and usually done by student loans that take years and years to pay off so I presume you might want to rethink your career and choose one in which 1) you can repay your student loans, and 2) because attorneys ';buy'; their way into their positions within a law firm. All I can tell you is that the small law firms I've worked for got eaten up by the bigger law firms (small ones couldn't survive). You might want to do file clerk work or runner work for a law firm while you're attending school so as to get your foot in the door, and then to determine what specialty you'd want to do first so as to fit into that specific law firm (as to what specialty they need at the moment). There are too many attorneys out there now so you'll have a tough time getting employed so I presume you'd want to take what work you get.
If you want to do good for the world, go be a social worker.
Going to law school is not something you do without a plan. If you don't know absolutely positively what you want to do (and have a job waiting for you), DON'T BOTHER.
Sorry to trample your dreams, but you need a reality check.
1. Go to law school, take a bunch of courses, read many cases, and decide what kind of cases interest you.
2. Talk to several lawyers.
3. Talk to the career center at your law school.I know I want to be a lawyer but don't know what I want to specialize in, advice?
The guy above me has some good advice. In addition, you'll have opportunities to intern in various law firms while you're in school. Try to find a legal aid firm, or one that does mostly pro bono work. You will have more than enough work to do, even as a student intern.
You have to get a job first......consider this
Warning! Jobs in the field of Law are drying up FAST!! This is not a good field to invest time and/or money into. This is a SHRINKING vocational field. Many reasons. Many people today think they can do their own legal work, thanks to the Internet. We simply have WAY TOO MANY Legal Professionals - we have an absolute GLUT!! (';Legal Professionals'; includes, but is not limited to: Attorneys/Lawyers, Paralegals, Legal Assistants, Legal Secretaries, Bailiffs, Court Reporters, etc, etc)
Regarding being a Paralegal: Paralegals can be found in many types of businesses. Employers (usually law firms) in the field of Law want employees with BACHELORS degrees from traditional universities/colleges. Those ';certificates'; you sometimes see advertised, aren't worth the paper they are printed on - they are generally SCAMS.
Even IF you finish law school, you won't be able to find a job when you are done. Since this vocational field is shrinking, many new attorneys/lawyers are, themselves, having to work ';down'; as Paralegals, Legal Assistants, Legal Secretaries, Bailiffs, Court Reporters, etc, etc, to simply try to keep some of THEIR bills paid %26lt;THIS would be your competition. And the competition is FIERCE!!
Now... the law schools know this, but they won't tell you the truth %26gt;that the job market/economy is SATURATED with WAY TOO MANY Legal Professionals. Instead the schools will feed you a fairytale and will LIE to you. The root of the problem is we have too many law schools. We are in a recession, and the schools are fighting for their own survival - they will tell students ANYTHING to get to the students' money. (Which is why they won't tell you the truth about the job market for the field of Law.) AND these schools continue to recruit and churn out even MORE Legal Professionals.............
If you don't believe me, then just do a SEARCH here on Yahoo Answers to see what other posters are saying about the current status of the field of Law.
In the book ';So You Want to be a Lawyer? by Marianne Calabrese and susanne Calabrese (ISBN 0-88391-136-1): ';The United States has more lawyers than any other country in the world. About 38,000 students graduate EACH YEAR from 200 law schools in the United States. The competition is very keen for jobs and clients.';
If you want a JOB when you are done with your studies, consider and look into the field of %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;HEALTHCARE! %26lt;THIS is where the jobs are! and scholarships!
getting your JD is quite costly and usually done by student loans that take years and years to pay off so I presume you might want to rethink your career and choose one in which 1) you can repay your student loans, and 2) because attorneys ';buy'; their way into their positions within a law firm. All I can tell you is that the small law firms I've worked for got eaten up by the bigger law firms (small ones couldn't survive). You might want to do file clerk work or runner work for a law firm while you're attending school so as to get your foot in the door, and then to determine what specialty you'd want to do first so as to fit into that specific law firm (as to what specialty they need at the moment). There are too many attorneys out there now so you'll have a tough time getting employed so I presume you'd want to take what work you get.
If you want to do good for the world, go be a social worker.
Going to law school is not something you do without a plan. If you don't know absolutely positively what you want to do (and have a job waiting for you), DON'T BOTHER.
Sorry to trample your dreams, but you need a reality check.
I might be moving to Mexico city I would like to open a high end pet store any advice?
Are there currently any pet stores there that carry brands like Wellness and Science Diet?I might be moving to Mexico city I would like to open a high end pet store any advice?
Don't do puppymills. If you're planning on having animals. I consider anything that has wellness and the higher end foods a better place to shop. Science diet SUCKS.I might be moving to Mexico city I would like to open a high end pet store any advice?
You'll need a small fortune to set up a store, plus you may need a licence if you wish to sell live animals (i.e rodents, reptiles, birds, fish etc). There are also other things to consider such as advertising, staff, accountancy, legal costs, buying stock and of course setting the place up.
My advice is to do your research. If you have to, search online for pet stores in Mexico City. Call the pet stores there and see what brands they carry.
set it up in a wealthy part of mexico city.............i.ve seen science diet and royal canid down there but never wellness.....
ummm....never heard of high end pet stores, so it might be a new and intersting thing people might be attracted too.eye makeup tips pores
Don't do puppymills. If you're planning on having animals. I consider anything that has wellness and the higher end foods a better place to shop. Science diet SUCKS.I might be moving to Mexico city I would like to open a high end pet store any advice?
You'll need a small fortune to set up a store, plus you may need a licence if you wish to sell live animals (i.e rodents, reptiles, birds, fish etc). There are also other things to consider such as advertising, staff, accountancy, legal costs, buying stock and of course setting the place up.
My advice is to do your research. If you have to, search online for pet stores in Mexico City. Call the pet stores there and see what brands they carry.
set it up in a wealthy part of mexico city.............i.ve seen science diet and royal canid down there but never wellness.....
ummm....never heard of high end pet stores, so it might be a new and intersting thing people might be attracted too.
Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
I've never worked as a 'perm', 'full time', 'regular' employee. I was a 'consultant' all these days. Tomorrow I'm meeting the HR person for my new job that I'll be starting in two weeks. I'm sure he is going to discuss with me about the benefits, retirement savings etc.
If he talks about retirement savings, what should I expect and how should I answer? I'm trying to be less clueless about 401K, IRA etc. What would be the best strategy to follow while negotiating those terms?
Can someone please help?
Thank you all.Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
401-K you cannot go wrong. See if your employer matches your contributions and if so, how much? Have the HR or benefits specialist go over all of the mutual funds that are available to you in the 401 plan. You need to find out what the expense ratio is on the funds you feel comfortable with, the HR/benefits person can easily produce this information for you. Get in the company's plan and start saving for your retirement.Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
????
You've found a company that will negotiate terms of their 401k/retirement plans?
Impressive.
Because they are typically non-negotiable, they are normally overlooked. And DON'T let them try to include it, that's a mug's game. Retirement plans are uniform for almost all employees, unless stock grants or options are being placed on your behalf.
I could be wrong here but most companies have a time requirement BEFORE you get the retirement accounts. Usually 6 months to a year. Then you get to make you choices as to how much and things. If they offer it upfront check the matching percent and is it cash match or stock match. Personally I do not like the stock matches because you can get beat if your company turns out like Enron.
Also they don't make you do those decisions on the fly. They allow you time because you may want to discuss it with your significant other.
Congratulations on the job!
Bob Laibach
www.gogreedy.com
Dont know if this is what your looking for?
Ask what is the maxim the company will match (%) to your your contribution.
If he talks about retirement savings, what should I expect and how should I answer? I'm trying to be less clueless about 401K, IRA etc. What would be the best strategy to follow while negotiating those terms?
Can someone please help?
Thank you all.Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
401-K you cannot go wrong. See if your employer matches your contributions and if so, how much? Have the HR or benefits specialist go over all of the mutual funds that are available to you in the 401 plan. You need to find out what the expense ratio is on the funds you feel comfortable with, the HR/benefits person can easily produce this information for you. Get in the company's plan and start saving for your retirement.Starting a new job - What will be your advice on retirement savings?
????
You've found a company that will negotiate terms of their 401k/retirement plans?
Impressive.
Because they are typically non-negotiable, they are normally overlooked. And DON'T let them try to include it, that's a mug's game. Retirement plans are uniform for almost all employees, unless stock grants or options are being placed on your behalf.
I could be wrong here but most companies have a time requirement BEFORE you get the retirement accounts. Usually 6 months to a year. Then you get to make you choices as to how much and things. If they offer it upfront check the matching percent and is it cash match or stock match. Personally I do not like the stock matches because you can get beat if your company turns out like Enron.
Also they don't make you do those decisions on the fly. They allow you time because you may want to discuss it with your significant other.
Congratulations on the job!
Bob Laibach
www.gogreedy.com
Dont know if this is what your looking for?
Ask what is the maxim the company will match (%) to your your contribution.
What advice should be given to the wife who is filing for divorce?
because her husband shouts at her for neglecting her house as well as children and she is keeping herself busy in upliftment of poor and sick person of society...What advice should be given to the wife who is filing for divorce?
See the ground under which this woman seeks divorce is basically her husband's shouting on her for her act of neglect towards her children %26amp; household activities. Mere shouting on spouse itself doesn't amount to cruelty on the ground which the woman can use for dissolving her marriage. Shouting in such case is based on provocation which was caused by the woman herself.
In such case how can she plead that cruelty inflicted on her by her husband by shouting on her?
As a spouse when he find his children being ignored by the other spouse, not given reasonable time necessary for the development of the children, ignoring the requirement of the children whether these are concerning the education, schooling food, clothing etc, ignoring the household activities which is the responsibility of both not only wife or husband as the case may be, ignoring the matrimonial rights of the other spouse, ignoring the family responsibilities concerning social calls %26amp; other relations, in any or all such cases a difference in opinion is ought to appear. The occasional arguments, verbal shouting %26amp; abuses are ought to take place between the two.
In all such case even the presiding officer hearing the divorce petition will definitely go in to the depth of the case %26amp; then only decide if the cruelty as alleged by the spouse/wife exist or not, if there is cruelty then against whom %26amp; by whom %26amp; who is responsible for it.
As in the facts of the present case I see by no imagination that this woman by ignoring her matrimonial home is doing any thing of benefits for the society if she is spoiling a unit of the society (her matrimonial home) how she can be of any help to the whole of the society? What she does for the uplifment of the poor/sick is a social work which may be providing her fame in a group of people who basically collect to show off nothing more, these socialites have two faces %26amp; two different way of life, better watch Hindu Movie Page-3 to know more about such socialites %26amp; social workers then one will understand what sort of people they are %26amp; what social work they basically do.
Rest you have right to give me thumbs down for my comments, I won't mind.What advice should be given to the wife who is filing for divorce?
This case demands that the husband needs the advice, but it won't work. Only someone close to him can do so. The wife should be advised to win over her husband by conciously demonstrating to him that his wish is being respected and taken care of. Filing for divorse for the type of problem mentioned by you is not justified. If wife is thinking on those lines, then she is indeed not understanding that her house, her husband, and children should have priority over her profession. If the family is not ready to sacrifice for her profession, then things get complicated and in her interest, she should decide giving priority to family.
In Husband Wife relationship mutual understanding is the main part.
Here both does not have mutual understanding. The wife first should take care of her family before taking care of the society. There is nothing wrong in helping poor and sick persons. If she should be manage both it is adviceable.
And there is nothing wrong in the husband shouting her wife. and one more thing he may also have the duty to do and to share the domestic work with her wife.
My kind advice to the husband is
1) Share your feelings softly %26amp; politely with your spouse.
2) You also have same responsibility in building up your family nice.
3) You can also respect and consider your spouse interest in helping others.
Very important advice to the Wife is:
1) Being a women, is the main role in the family not only in the family for the entire society, world etc.....
2) Being a wife you should first consider your family before the society.
3) You can also respect and consider your husbands thoughts and feelings.
4) Don't take a silly decision by filling divorce.
5) Basically if you have soft corner then only one should service for others then how could you divorce your husband for this reason?
6) Be practical and share your feelings softly and politely and take a nice decision.
I sincerely wish a social harmony occur at the earliest.
I decided to answer this question after seeing your additional details. (Since a real issue)
Both your close friend and her husband are correct in their angle of view. (I am confusing in total is it?)
From the view of your friend’s husband:
A wife (as generally viewed by society) should be a good home maker, taking care of children and keeping the harmony in the family with sufficient care on husband and involving in all pleasure and sorrow whole heartily.
There is nothing wrong in his expectations as almost all in our Indian culture expect the same.
His anger is genuine, who as a wife not bothered her own husband and children who are the very meaning to her, indulging herself busy in upliftment of poor and sick person of society...
(I, in one of the earlier answers, wrote to you that all Indians are first a child to biological mother and should learn to love and identify with mother, then with family and then with community/religion, village, district, state, nation and finally towards Human of the total planet. But you were in difference with my view on that.) ---------This is in general case.
Now from the view of your close friend (wife):
She is a woman with a high order quality with a serious concern over the society and its upliftment. Only a very few among the women will have such intuition towards society especially in this materialistic world. May be 1 in a lakh women population. Such activity only gives her the true pleasure. She feels the way she wants to lead her life is her choice and liberty. After all life is to “live” and not to “struggle”. She got entangled in the wedlock out of either circumstances or the social obligation and she repent for that now.
(This point of view is correct as millions of women ready to be house wife but only few women prefer to serve the society like “Mother Theresa”. There are so many house maids are available to the house keeping and to take care the children, cooking, washing and laundry. She can be back home after social service and take care of husband). ---------------This in extraordinary case. the degree of involvement is to be assessed by you.
in any case divorce to be avoided.
you can advice your friend's husband to be a smart husband!!!
***A person who surrenders when he's WRONG, is HONEST.
***A person who SURRENDERS when not SURE, is WISE.
***A person who surrenders even if he's RIGHT, is a HUSBAND.!
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
Now you know your friend better and you will have to decide the choice and advice accordingly.
additions:
Destiny's answer to your other question will be most useful in giving advice to your close friend.
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
the home of an individual is a miniature society .when she is working for the upliftment of the poor and needy of the Society ,she is very much capable of uplifting her house as well.how can she manage her social relations when she is unable to manage the most fundamental personal relations.
but yes i would also ask her that was she searching for admiration from strangers 'cause she wasn't able to get the same at home?
whatever the case ,a better communication channel is indispensable for her towards her husband
My dear Banjaran....
Well...out of my own experience (when I filed for my divorce) I can tell you the steps to take....but...since I've filed for divorce in the USA ...I believe, it's a bit different in India...?
Usually, when there are ';minor children'; involved by law, you'll have a 6 months ';Re-adjustment'; period to go through (whereby you should clear up, if that's what you really wish -or- if you intent to ';reconciliation';, etc.) But all you have to do ist find you a good lawyer, who ';specializes'; in divorce-cases in order to regulate the ';financial asset's';, etc.
After the 6 month ';Reconciliation time'; is over....you just go down to the ';City-County-Bldg.'; and sign the papers...that's it !
But...on a personal note....I have nothing against ';being altruistic'; and caring for ';The poor %26amp; sick';, because I do such things as well....but....NOT to the extent that your ';OWN family'; is suffering through your engagement. That's NOT fair to the family members and I can even understand the husband getting on ';her case';...No need to ';shout';, but they should intelligently and calmly discuss the matter !
That's just my opinion...You can ';Do for others';, but NOT for the prize of neglecting your OWN family, which should always come FIRST !!! Send you all my love %26amp; care....your friend....Annette****
According to dharma. Her first duty is to husband (gurupati), children and house. How can she be wife if she neglects her duty to husband, children and house?
Charity begins at home. A home is only a house without a wife or a mother.
Why she is filing for divorce? She is the one who is not upholding her marriage vows. She is the transgressor.
I wish them well.
Take care and best wishes always
GOURANGA GOURANGA GOURANGA
What she is doing is wrong - and filing for divorce is even worse. Make her understand the priorities and her responsibilities. Also try to make her see the life after divorce - until separation it all looks good but I have not seen a single couple happy after divorce - in fact it is even worse. If required - professional help of counsellor can be useful. Best of luck.
There is no good reason for one partner to verbally abuse the other...not even if they are not doing their part for the family. She has every right to want to divorce him.
Perhaps your friend is not cut out to be a homemaker. Maybe she can get a paying job outside of the home that allows her to help the poor and sick, then they could use the money to pay for child care. Also, they can both agree to do a share of the housework, instead of your friend being stuck with having to do it all.
My advice would be that the woman should make sure her home and her children and family are taken care of FIRST, then help with the upliftment of poor and sick person of society---
Then, her husband would have no reason to shout at her, and she would have no reason to file for a divorce! By the way, thats pretty harsh--- a divorce just because he shouted at her for the house not being clean??
hmm---I wonder who this poor sick person of society is???
Marriage is commitment ....
Marriage is an institution ....
Family is Societies unit ....
Our future grows here and it is a responsible decision in ones Life.
No one can be forced to marry. A saint never marries or has the partner as an associate in the promised task.
Many religions talk of donating some percent of the family income for charity which is taken care by a organised institution. So this is, charity-begins-at-Home, which the children also learn %26amp; participate.
This is not at all point of divorce. There must be something else.If she is ready to help poor and sick person than why she will not look after the house? If you are right than you should mediated some one who can be trusted in between both. I think if you go accordingly than the problem in between the two will be sorted out. wishing them all the best and my god bless both of them,
there is always a good side of every person.. make her sit with her hubby and let hubby do the talking.. explain her that 2 hands are needed to clap... if one side is neglated then definitly other side must have also done the same... conversation in peace is all the soultion to stop the ending marriage
take a complete battery of professional behavioral, emotional and anxiety disorders tests to see what is happening in the head. Then get help....Husband does not understand there is illness here. ...He might if he sees it in writing.
I came across with this helpful article and I totally agree with their thoughts and surely this can help you out ';Divorce Tips for Women ';
Very strange! Divorce should be filed by her husband. When her house is burning, she is watching others house. My advice is Please serve your family first and then others.
Live and Let live !!
Why to interfare in other husband and wives' life ?!!
They must be matured enough to understand each other.
If they are not matured then they should not have married. So let them be saparated.
Enough of the flowery talk. What is she really doing? She should not be neglecting her children to ';uplift the poor.'; Your children come first.
I concur with your addenda to your question which answer the question.
Husbands should not shout...it's not nice. But they should kindly ask for what they want.
Er, good luck?
Harriet
go ahead.
She lost her priority. Let the man be happy. Leave him free.
See the ground under which this woman seeks divorce is basically her husband's shouting on her for her act of neglect towards her children %26amp; household activities. Mere shouting on spouse itself doesn't amount to cruelty on the ground which the woman can use for dissolving her marriage. Shouting in such case is based on provocation which was caused by the woman herself.
In such case how can she plead that cruelty inflicted on her by her husband by shouting on her?
As a spouse when he find his children being ignored by the other spouse, not given reasonable time necessary for the development of the children, ignoring the requirement of the children whether these are concerning the education, schooling food, clothing etc, ignoring the household activities which is the responsibility of both not only wife or husband as the case may be, ignoring the matrimonial rights of the other spouse, ignoring the family responsibilities concerning social calls %26amp; other relations, in any or all such cases a difference in opinion is ought to appear. The occasional arguments, verbal shouting %26amp; abuses are ought to take place between the two.
In all such case even the presiding officer hearing the divorce petition will definitely go in to the depth of the case %26amp; then only decide if the cruelty as alleged by the spouse/wife exist or not, if there is cruelty then against whom %26amp; by whom %26amp; who is responsible for it.
As in the facts of the present case I see by no imagination that this woman by ignoring her matrimonial home is doing any thing of benefits for the society if she is spoiling a unit of the society (her matrimonial home) how she can be of any help to the whole of the society? What she does for the uplifment of the poor/sick is a social work which may be providing her fame in a group of people who basically collect to show off nothing more, these socialites have two faces %26amp; two different way of life, better watch Hindu Movie Page-3 to know more about such socialites %26amp; social workers then one will understand what sort of people they are %26amp; what social work they basically do.
Rest you have right to give me thumbs down for my comments, I won't mind.What advice should be given to the wife who is filing for divorce?
This case demands that the husband needs the advice, but it won't work. Only someone close to him can do so. The wife should be advised to win over her husband by conciously demonstrating to him that his wish is being respected and taken care of. Filing for divorse for the type of problem mentioned by you is not justified. If wife is thinking on those lines, then she is indeed not understanding that her house, her husband, and children should have priority over her profession. If the family is not ready to sacrifice for her profession, then things get complicated and in her interest, she should decide giving priority to family.
In Husband Wife relationship mutual understanding is the main part.
Here both does not have mutual understanding. The wife first should take care of her family before taking care of the society. There is nothing wrong in helping poor and sick persons. If she should be manage both it is adviceable.
And there is nothing wrong in the husband shouting her wife. and one more thing he may also have the duty to do and to share the domestic work with her wife.
My kind advice to the husband is
1) Share your feelings softly %26amp; politely with your spouse.
2) You also have same responsibility in building up your family nice.
3) You can also respect and consider your spouse interest in helping others.
Very important advice to the Wife is:
1) Being a women, is the main role in the family not only in the family for the entire society, world etc.....
2) Being a wife you should first consider your family before the society.
3) You can also respect and consider your husbands thoughts and feelings.
4) Don't take a silly decision by filling divorce.
5) Basically if you have soft corner then only one should service for others then how could you divorce your husband for this reason?
6) Be practical and share your feelings softly and politely and take a nice decision.
I sincerely wish a social harmony occur at the earliest.
I decided to answer this question after seeing your additional details. (Since a real issue)
Both your close friend and her husband are correct in their angle of view. (I am confusing in total is it?)
From the view of your friend’s husband:
A wife (as generally viewed by society) should be a good home maker, taking care of children and keeping the harmony in the family with sufficient care on husband and involving in all pleasure and sorrow whole heartily.
There is nothing wrong in his expectations as almost all in our Indian culture expect the same.
His anger is genuine, who as a wife not bothered her own husband and children who are the very meaning to her, indulging herself busy in upliftment of poor and sick person of society...
(I, in one of the earlier answers, wrote to you that all Indians are first a child to biological mother and should learn to love and identify with mother, then with family and then with community/religion, village, district, state, nation and finally towards Human of the total planet. But you were in difference with my view on that.) ---------This is in general case.
Now from the view of your close friend (wife):
She is a woman with a high order quality with a serious concern over the society and its upliftment. Only a very few among the women will have such intuition towards society especially in this materialistic world. May be 1 in a lakh women population. Such activity only gives her the true pleasure. She feels the way she wants to lead her life is her choice and liberty. After all life is to “live” and not to “struggle”. She got entangled in the wedlock out of either circumstances or the social obligation and she repent for that now.
(This point of view is correct as millions of women ready to be house wife but only few women prefer to serve the society like “Mother Theresa”. There are so many house maids are available to the house keeping and to take care the children, cooking, washing and laundry. She can be back home after social service and take care of husband). ---------------This in extraordinary case. the degree of involvement is to be assessed by you.
in any case divorce to be avoided.
you can advice your friend's husband to be a smart husband!!!
***A person who surrenders when he's WRONG, is HONEST.
***A person who SURRENDERS when not SURE, is WISE.
***A person who surrenders even if he's RIGHT, is a HUSBAND.!
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
Now you know your friend better and you will have to decide the choice and advice accordingly.
additions:
Destiny's answer to your other question will be most useful in giving advice to your close friend.
http://in.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind…
the home of an individual is a miniature society .when she is working for the upliftment of the poor and needy of the Society ,she is very much capable of uplifting her house as well.how can she manage her social relations when she is unable to manage the most fundamental personal relations.
but yes i would also ask her that was she searching for admiration from strangers 'cause she wasn't able to get the same at home?
whatever the case ,a better communication channel is indispensable for her towards her husband
My dear Banjaran....
Well...out of my own experience (when I filed for my divorce) I can tell you the steps to take....but...since I've filed for divorce in the USA ...I believe, it's a bit different in India...?
Usually, when there are ';minor children'; involved by law, you'll have a 6 months ';Re-adjustment'; period to go through (whereby you should clear up, if that's what you really wish -or- if you intent to ';reconciliation';, etc.) But all you have to do ist find you a good lawyer, who ';specializes'; in divorce-cases in order to regulate the ';financial asset's';, etc.
After the 6 month ';Reconciliation time'; is over....you just go down to the ';City-County-Bldg.'; and sign the papers...that's it !
But...on a personal note....I have nothing against ';being altruistic'; and caring for ';The poor %26amp; sick';, because I do such things as well....but....NOT to the extent that your ';OWN family'; is suffering through your engagement. That's NOT fair to the family members and I can even understand the husband getting on ';her case';...No need to ';shout';, but they should intelligently and calmly discuss the matter !
That's just my opinion...You can ';Do for others';, but NOT for the prize of neglecting your OWN family, which should always come FIRST !!! Send you all my love %26amp; care....your friend....Annette****
According to dharma. Her first duty is to husband (gurupati), children and house. How can she be wife if she neglects her duty to husband, children and house?
Charity begins at home. A home is only a house without a wife or a mother.
Why she is filing for divorce? She is the one who is not upholding her marriage vows. She is the transgressor.
I wish them well.
Take care and best wishes always
GOURANGA GOURANGA GOURANGA
What she is doing is wrong - and filing for divorce is even worse. Make her understand the priorities and her responsibilities. Also try to make her see the life after divorce - until separation it all looks good but I have not seen a single couple happy after divorce - in fact it is even worse. If required - professional help of counsellor can be useful. Best of luck.
There is no good reason for one partner to verbally abuse the other...not even if they are not doing their part for the family. She has every right to want to divorce him.
Perhaps your friend is not cut out to be a homemaker. Maybe she can get a paying job outside of the home that allows her to help the poor and sick, then they could use the money to pay for child care. Also, they can both agree to do a share of the housework, instead of your friend being stuck with having to do it all.
My advice would be that the woman should make sure her home and her children and family are taken care of FIRST, then help with the upliftment of poor and sick person of society---
Then, her husband would have no reason to shout at her, and she would have no reason to file for a divorce! By the way, thats pretty harsh--- a divorce just because he shouted at her for the house not being clean??
hmm---I wonder who this poor sick person of society is???
Marriage is commitment ....
Marriage is an institution ....
Family is Societies unit ....
Our future grows here and it is a responsible decision in ones Life.
No one can be forced to marry. A saint never marries or has the partner as an associate in the promised task.
Many religions talk of donating some percent of the family income for charity which is taken care by a organised institution. So this is, charity-begins-at-Home, which the children also learn %26amp; participate.
This is not at all point of divorce. There must be something else.If she is ready to help poor and sick person than why she will not look after the house? If you are right than you should mediated some one who can be trusted in between both. I think if you go accordingly than the problem in between the two will be sorted out. wishing them all the best and my god bless both of them,
there is always a good side of every person.. make her sit with her hubby and let hubby do the talking.. explain her that 2 hands are needed to clap... if one side is neglated then definitly other side must have also done the same... conversation in peace is all the soultion to stop the ending marriage
take a complete battery of professional behavioral, emotional and anxiety disorders tests to see what is happening in the head. Then get help....Husband does not understand there is illness here. ...He might if he sees it in writing.
I came across with this helpful article and I totally agree with their thoughts and surely this can help you out ';Divorce Tips for Women ';
Very strange! Divorce should be filed by her husband. When her house is burning, she is watching others house. My advice is Please serve your family first and then others.
Live and Let live !!
Why to interfare in other husband and wives' life ?!!
They must be matured enough to understand each other.
If they are not matured then they should not have married. So let them be saparated.
Enough of the flowery talk. What is she really doing? She should not be neglecting her children to ';uplift the poor.'; Your children come first.
I concur with your addenda to your question which answer the question.
Husbands should not shout...it's not nice. But they should kindly ask for what they want.
Er, good luck?
Harriet
go ahead.
She lost her priority. Let the man be happy. Leave him free.
Any advice for a soon to be freshman?
I'm about to start in a public high school. I've always gone to a private school my whole life. Any advice in being confident and comfortable and style ideas on a budget?Any advice for a soon to be freshman?
Take your freshman year very seriously and don't think that it doesn't count. If you blow off your freshman year, you will have cut your overall GPA by a third. Colleges will see your overall GPA when you apply for them in the fall of your senior year. Your GPA will be the most primary tool for getting into a college. When a university gets 20,000 applications a year, the first thing the admissions office will do is reject all students who have below a certain GPA. If you had srcewed around freshman year, you would need to work twice as hard both sophomore and junior years to being the overall GPA up.Any advice for a soon to be freshman?
Upperclassmen aren't as mean as all that, just stay out of their way. Don't get lost cuz then you look like a loser. Smile at people WHO LOOK FRIENDLY. If they look sketchy, then they probably are (at least, for someone coming from private school). areopastel.com and your local thrift shop (which sounds stupid but isn't because you can find cute vintage stuff that no one else will have) DO NOT dress like a slut, or you'll be labeled as one and everyone will hate you. Be polite and don't start rumors. You sound like a cool kid, just be yourself. You may want to get a planner too. Surprisingly, it helps SO MUCH to be organized. Totally takes away stress Oh, and ditto with the grades. Don't make your GPA your WHOLE life, just give it some thought before you spend your year partying. You won't remember the party you went to Friday night but you will remember the C you got in Algebra... especially when you don't get into that one college.
yeah hang out with preps they will take u far. be ready for change because private schools and public schools are soo different just relax and as long as you have cute hair clean skin and 2 expensive shirts everything else you wear depends on how you feel wearing it
I'm also going to be a freshman next year!
Anyways aeropostale.com has some clothes for people on a budget
Take your freshman year very seriously and don't think that it doesn't count. If you blow off your freshman year, you will have cut your overall GPA by a third. Colleges will see your overall GPA when you apply for them in the fall of your senior year. Your GPA will be the most primary tool for getting into a college. When a university gets 20,000 applications a year, the first thing the admissions office will do is reject all students who have below a certain GPA. If you had srcewed around freshman year, you would need to work twice as hard both sophomore and junior years to being the overall GPA up.Any advice for a soon to be freshman?
Upperclassmen aren't as mean as all that, just stay out of their way. Don't get lost cuz then you look like a loser. Smile at people WHO LOOK FRIENDLY. If they look sketchy, then they probably are (at least, for someone coming from private school). areopastel.com and your local thrift shop (which sounds stupid but isn't because you can find cute vintage stuff that no one else will have) DO NOT dress like a slut, or you'll be labeled as one and everyone will hate you. Be polite and don't start rumors. You sound like a cool kid, just be yourself. You may want to get a planner too. Surprisingly, it helps SO MUCH to be organized. Totally takes away stress Oh, and ditto with the grades. Don't make your GPA your WHOLE life, just give it some thought before you spend your year partying. You won't remember the party you went to Friday night but you will remember the C you got in Algebra... especially when you don't get into that one college.
yeah hang out with preps they will take u far. be ready for change because private schools and public schools are soo different just relax and as long as you have cute hair clean skin and 2 expensive shirts everything else you wear depends on how you feel wearing it
I'm also going to be a freshman next year!
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What advice would a Veternarian give students to be more sucessful in mathemactics?
Study, Study, Study. if your doing well in all your other classes, just ut your mind into your math class. Maybe take time before or after school with your teacher. Or maybe get a tutor?What advice would a Veternarian give students to be more sucessful in mathemactics?
Get a tutor if your having trouble. Once you get behind in math, you are lost forever.What advice would a Veternarian give students to be more sucessful in mathemactics?
THINK!!
Vegetarians tend to be dumber than the average person because they don't get enough of the right kinds of protein eg from fish etc. I wouldn't go asking them for advice if I were you.
buy a calculator
study and do ur work!
Study.
learn to count
Get a tutor if your having trouble. Once you get behind in math, you are lost forever.What advice would a Veternarian give students to be more sucessful in mathemactics?
THINK!!
Vegetarians tend to be dumber than the average person because they don't get enough of the right kinds of protein eg from fish etc. I wouldn't go asking them for advice if I were you.
buy a calculator
study and do ur work!
Study.
learn to count
Any advice for someone wanting to be a Biomedical Scientist?
I was looking up jobs and careers and i found one i quite like the sound of- Biomedical Science.
I was just wondering if anyone can tell me a bit more about it. I am only 14 yrs old and still at school. I achive level 6 and 7 in most subjects and sometimes level 8. Is this a good enough for this kind of career?
Any advice on Universities, Courses etc. will be greatly appreciated!Any advice for someone wanting to be a Biomedical Scientist?
You'll have a huge variety of courses to look at when you are in year 12 and 13. I advise you study hard in during GCSE's so you can study Chemistry and Biology for A-Levels, make sure you get a B in science you GCSE though and maths too. For good Biomedical courses at Uni, you will be looking to achieve A's in year 12 and 13 for your A levels, may want to do very well in GCSE's just incase. Best Uni's want a lot of UCAS points.
I was just wondering if anyone can tell me a bit more about it. I am only 14 yrs old and still at school. I achive level 6 and 7 in most subjects and sometimes level 8. Is this a good enough for this kind of career?
Any advice on Universities, Courses etc. will be greatly appreciated!Any advice for someone wanting to be a Biomedical Scientist?
You'll have a huge variety of courses to look at when you are in year 12 and 13. I advise you study hard in during GCSE's so you can study Chemistry and Biology for A-Levels, make sure you get a B in science you GCSE though and maths too. For good Biomedical courses at Uni, you will be looking to achieve A's in year 12 and 13 for your A levels, may want to do very well in GCSE's just incase. Best Uni's want a lot of UCAS points.
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