What should I say to someone I suspect is bulimic? advice from bulimics would be nice!?

An old friend of mine has lost a lot of weight in the last year or so...I suspect she is bulimic. What would be the best way for me to tell her I know? How can I make sure she gets the help she needs?What should I say to someone I suspect is bulimic? advice from bulimics would be nice!?
my roommate in college was bulimic for a year. I knew but I never said anything. I just ignored it. Then she came back from summer break and I did not even recoginize her. I feel horrible for not speaking up because now she is completely lost. I ended up writing her a letter telling her that I know whats going on. I am not sure what the right way to go about it is, but all I know is that if you feel there is a problem then you have to speak up. What should I say to someone I suspect is bulimic? advice from bulimics would be nice!?
I used to have bulimia , here is what you need to do


* Are you sure she's Bulimic ? People don't appreciate being accused of things they didn't do .


* Does she starve herself ?


* does she disappear to the toilet after meals ?


*does she have swollen knuckles ?


*Does she always have throat problems ?


*does she insist on eating in private ?





if she does some of these things they you need to sit her down and explain how you feel - tell her that you love her and want whats best for her but your worried about her current weight loss . Basically support her and encourage her to get help but rememberr to be tactful :)
That's really hard. I'm recovering from an ED myself, and it didn't matter what anyone said about how I was too skinny, I wasn't thin enough!





Express your concern for her health, but remember that she is not going to change unless:





1) she is ready to change





or





2) She finds someone (or someone she really cares about already) who SHE wants to change her behavior for.





This is what did it for me. When I met the man who became my husband, I weighed 92 pounds. I fell in love with him, and finally one day once I was past the point that I could've broken up with him and moved on with my life, he told me he kenw that I had and eating disorder and he wanted me to stop it. He was willing to help me through whatever he had to, but I wasn't healthy and he told me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me- so I had to stop killing myself.





It was painful, and sometimes still is, but I did it. For me and for him, and for the family that we want to have together.





I'm glad that you care for your friend like that, and wish you the best of luck with whatever you chose to do for her.