Im a new mom to be in a lesbian relationship and could use some advice?

I am 20 years old and I am 6months pregnant with my first child and I am in a lesbian relationship. (I have been with the same person for years) I was just wondering if I could get some advice on some things I might face as a gay parent.Im a new mom to be in a lesbian relationship and could use some advice?
The first thing I think is important for your family is an attorney that is familiar with LGBT family law. Not sure what state your from, but there are many things you can do to protect your family. Here are just a few examples, and certainly is not a complete list.





-Power of Attorney for consent to medical care for a minor. You may need this for your partner if she is ever the one taking the child in for medical care or an emergency.





- Wills for your estate





- Guardianship documents in the case of your death.





Also check into your states laws regarding same sex co-adoption.





After you get all that legal mumbo jumbo done I suggest that you interview pediatricians. Find one that is comfortable with your family, see if they will require a copy of the Power of attorney for consent to medical care for a minor to be on file. Our pediatrician is awesome. We are treated with respect. And I, being the non-biological parent to our children am treated as an equal.





You will also want to do the same when finding child care for your baby. Interview the caregivers, be up front about your family and ensure that they have no problem with same sex couples.





What we have found to work the best for our family is to have open and honest conversations with the people that are in our children's lives. From doctors to caregivers and teachers. And luckily we have never had a negative experience.





Our children are still young being only 6 years old and 4 years old. But they have friends and are treated well. My back yard is routinely filled with neighborhood kids that come over to play with our children. We pretty much approach life as if we don't expect any problems with people accepting our family. And so far it's all worked out fine.





Hope this helped. Feel free to e-mail me should you have any questions.











LIm a new mom to be in a lesbian relationship and could use some advice?
other parents, their kids, and teachers being uncomfortable


child wants a father-like role model


child being picked on





that's probably the biggest ones. if you love your child and always try your best(which i'm sure you will since you're on here to get good advice to help your child)just always be aware of possible negativity and be ready to intervene if something alarming happens. I may be crazy, but i think you'll make a great parent. good luck
You'll face the same thiings a straight mother would. You might get some weird stuff when your kid gets older, but all you can do is love your child and provide them with a safe nurturing environment :).